Quote: (11-26-2016 11:50 PM)jcrew247 Wrote:
It sounds like she might have a boyfriend.
Who is the other dude she keeps talking to? Find out if they are dating.
Cute girls get hit on all the time, and are just being friendly.
She might have a sugar daddy waiting back home.
It sounds like she is being un-intersted and un-commital to any dates.
She says "weekend is much better" but did you ever follow up with an actual date request?
Call her on Thursday night and ask her for dinner on the weekend.
If she rejects you then, just ignore her when you see her at the gym.
You may be competing for her affections from other men at the gym - and she doesn't want to appear like a slut who dates all the gym-dudes. Give her a reason to choose you over the other guys. But its sounds like she has luke-warm interest, and its going to take a fair amount of effort to win her back/bang her.
It seems Jcrew247 has got it right.
On Friday I walk into the gym and there she was. We make eye contact, I wink to her. Then put my stuff in the corner.
After a brief phone call, I walk to her and give her a high-5 and ask how's it going ?
Her: Estoy cansada tio ! This means I'm tired, dude, or bro, or mate
Spanish people frequently use the word TIO which literally translates to Uncle when speaking with their friends. It's the same as when English-speaking people use the word dude, bro or mate.
It's fine when guys speak like that, but I hate when women use this word. It's un-classy and a turn-off for me.
Me: what's wrong ?
Her: It's friday, had a long week
Me: perfect, finish your workout and we go for a relaxing drink afterwards.
Her: no no (smiling), I'm going to bed
Me: fine, tomorrow at 8, we meet at XYW bar
Her: I have a dinner, call me on Sunday and we will see
Me: Sunday I have things to do but we'll see if we can set up something.
And I went on with my workout.
Didn't feel much enthusiasm from her. Also having immediately answered "I'm tired" to my salutation made me feel it was rehearsed, to refuse the date, because she knew I was going to make a move.
Why was Jcrew247 right ?
Well the guy she had talked to on the first two days I saw her, was all over her, hugging her, resting his arms on her waist (she wasn't), talking to her every 5 minutes, helping her with her "form" on the squat, you know all the cheesy stuff.
And I wasn't stalking her, it's easy to see stuff like this between sets when you're catching you're breath.
So I just kept doing my thing and didn't talk to her beyond our first interaction.
Before she left, the guy was still all over her and walked her to the exit, while I was busy doing heavy sets of deadlifts.
Needless to say, I didn't contact her today Sunday and tomorrow Monday I'll be in the gym, as always, as if nothing ever happened.
Definitely not changing my routine, and most definitely not competing with the other dude. Plenty of fish in the sea and I'm in the gym to work out no to chase girls and compete with other guys.
If I see a girl I like, I go and say hi but I'm not going to compete with another guy in a gym setting.
So here you go folks.
Thanks for your advice, we can always learn from such situations to avoid doing the same mistakes and improve our game.