Quote: (11-25-2016 09:44 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
As XXL said, your push-pull is poorly done. First time is fun, then after that all pull and no push because the push becomes banal.
Also, I dont see any other attempt at creating attraction. Lets say I'm the girl, show me where and how I'm supposed to feel attracted to you?
You made a good first impression with your approach, but then go into orbiter mode. The whole interaction feel very fake even through a pc screen because of no congruence.
Your first impression is one of cocky funny. Then it disappeared and you replace it all with forced humor and niceties. You should have ridden that momentum when she asks "what happened" "nothing serious, there was this bear in the gym who was hogging all the equipent so I got into a dumbell pillow fight", or some nonesense shit, but it has to be congruent.
2 mistakes:
-Why did you compliment her on her profile pic? First, it means you stalk her (big DLV). Second, even if she did add you first, you gave her an unsolicited compliment through text. Unsolicited compliment is bad enough, using text makes it a crime at this early stage of seduction. She can sense you are showing too much interest.
-Again, you come to her first on Wed. Too much interest. Putain being French you should ve mastered the art of disinterest mon ami!!
If I were you I would try for a pull right after the gym, in a casual way "phew its hot after gym lets go grab a drink after this", if she refuses you can recalibrate your interest in the texting.
I would say right now you'd scared her off. Do a freeze out and start from the beginning and see whats up.
First "date" shouldnt be a weekend neither.
Great reply mon ami.
I thought the picture of the obese dude was quite funny and kept a liaison to our first interaction (trying to keep the connection)
As for approaching her first the 2nd time in the gym, true, but she was already there and I walked in almost face to face with her.
Guilty as charged on the compliment of her profile pic.
I also tried to set up a date during the week, suggesting either Tuesday or Thursday.
As for your tip, would you freeze out and start fresh or go for the pull ?
I'm not sure I understood your tip.