Quote: (11-10-2016 11:41 AM)General Stalin Wrote:
You're reading too much into it. Flaking is just a rejection. It's not some complicated meta-scheme women run to extract things from men. I'll tell you what is, though:
When a female refuses to meet up with you, but will chat with you endlessly. Women will string along men they want to extract attention from but are not interested in sexually for one reason or another. This may be along the lines of what you are talking about, but flaking isn't the right word. Flaking is just when you make arrangements with a female and she backs out, typically in a non-communicated manner (ignores you) or with lies/excuses. Flaking is blowing off plans.
A girl who will dance and flirt with you all night at the club but will not give you her number, or gives you a fake number. That is another example of a woman simply extracting entertainment out of you without being attracted enough to want to take the interaction further. Maybe she has a boyfriend and is just having fun. Maybe you aren't good looking enough for her to want to get sexual with. Etc.
Thank you for correcting me!
Then this thread should be titled - “A link between flaking and attention seeking”
Here is an example of what I mean:
It is a Friday night and I am going out.
On the way to the closest club, I receive a text from one of my plates.
(i was always acting very cool and unemotional with her. Never said any complements to her , never said that i like her)
She: “Are you partying tonight?”
Me: “Yes. Do You want meet me?”
She: “Yes, of course”
Me: “Ok. I will be in bar x. Can you come there?”
She: “Ok. - i'll be there after 20 min”
Me: “ Deal. See You there! “
I went to that bar, grabbed a beer and waited for her. She didn't come.
No texts no calls.
So- at this point-can we call this “flaking” or not?
Here is par two:
After 1,5 hours I sent her a bit needy text:
” What's going on? I am still waiting for You. Are You coming or not?”
No answer.
I don't care about this girl, but this kind of behavior is very disrespectful. And she should be somehow punished for this.
So i wrote very straight and serious:
"Are You playing games with me or what? I don't accept such kind of behavior. I'll be here for 15 minutes more. You have a chance to come and apologize. Other way - you'll never ever hear a word from me again."
Immediately - there was a call from her. She ran to me and apologized 10 times.
40 min. later we had sex at my place.
I asked her later a straight question- "What did you wanted to achieve with such behavior-a drama,attention,did you wanted me to act needy or what?"
Her answer was like: "Yes, all of this"