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(01-01-2012 05:11 PM)Conneray Wrote:  

Alright alright alright alright

-nods-

great advice, I guess being privileged has spoiled me a bit to the point I suffer from the Just World Fallacy

Ya I do agree environment matters a lot, in my cousin's case I will say it is nearly everything. See he also had aspirations of going to Harvard but he had no help at all from his environment and it was not much he could do to pad up his resume. While my immigrant family become more lenient, his was strict and kind of stupid in raising him (not letting him work out often, feeding him food high in carbs and low in protein, and buying a house in a torn down urban district).

Now here is his condition currently

1. Mom and dad decided his major, he did not do as well in it but now he has grown a backbone and told them to piss off, he is going to major in what he likes. He has a 2.7 GPA after three semesters as a college student.

2. He is not fit but not fat, he is inbetween, working on improving his looks. Has told me I can post his pics if you guys need them to give him some pointers on his looks and style.

3. He has been given 1 YEAR to move out. If he makes A's from now on out he can pull his GPA up and move away for college, I think this will do him wonders.

I also talked to him about environment and I visited the place he lives in, quite honestly this is all I saw

1. Whales and lots of em
2. A lot of the women are "ghetto" as most would describe it, the way they dress, act, and talk. Many are aggressive and will punch a guy in the face and jump him if needed.
3. A lot of the good looking girls live like a county which is 3 miles away from his but many are conservative and such

Now since he has a year to get out, I have suggested he do the following, what do you guys have to say?

1. Focus on academics a lot, get the best grades possible.
2. Focus on getting a good body and the best body he can get within that year time, do a lot of workouts, work his abs and such. Basically he has lost 35 lbs so far but the issue is he has some fat on his chest and abs still left over which I believe he would be best off burning off.
3. Get involved on campus and start developing his social skills. I think his are fine but he should try to max out.
4. Forget about getting into relationships for that whole year, no flirting, no nothing, if signs are there then attack but other than that do not even think about banging or anything, just work on grades, social skills and a good body.

That is plan I have formulated for him, what do you have to say?

How are his social skills, is he shy or introverted? Can he carry a decent conversation, is he afraid of speaking in public, can he tell a good story?

This is HUGE when it comes to getting laid, its how I manage to pull, I"m a natural talker and feel sorry for guys who just don't or can't engage others in a social setting.

One good way to overcome this fear that I know of is "Toastmasters International", I've never joined but this is one of many options for a guy to become more talkative also a good way to meet others. Another one is drama clubs, you say he's a student, does his college have a drama club? This is an awesome way to meet girls and if you can do acting, ESPECIALLY IMPROV type stuff, you'll pull, no problem.