Cross-posting my data sheet on Jdate here:
JDate
A Comparison vs. OKCupid
Pros:
You can request to IM any girl online
Girls seem a little more likely to respond
Competition is probably weaker
The interface is less attention whore friendly, so girls do it less.
Cons:
Way fewer people.
Some women on it are serious about getting married, and will get put off by a sense of humor.
Really cookie cutter profiles, generally.
Can't tell who's slutty, as there's no OKC style questions.
The big one: the chicks are just uglier.
Interface is sucky, stuck in the year 2000.
The IM client asks for permission before displaying your message, and I get girls clicking no to IM before they've even seen what I've messaged. Getting rejected before I even have a chance.
Many of the jdate girls, especially the younger ones, are on both sites.
I had two dates so far out of it, and one I sent home within 15 minutes, the other was ehhh. I have another one lined up for tonight, but my expectations aren't great. Some Jewish girls are also very insistent on not driving to you, and it becomes this power struggle. And that's an absolute dealbreaker for me (unless she doesn't have a car, which is rare).
Also, a bizarrely high proportion of the girls sounded very mannish. I don't think that's true of Jewish girls in general, and my jdate sample is small, but something I noticed.
I think the chicks on it are uglier not so much because they're Jewish, but because cute girls just see it as a point of pride that they don't need to pay to get men. The ones that do are more likely to be looking for a husband. Cute girls sign up for OKC as sort of an off-the-cuff, let's see what happens kind of deal. Girls go on jdate to get a man. I think that's the biggest reason for the difference.
I went back to trawling OKCupid, and it was a vast improvement. OKC says I got rated as attractive, so it does put attractive people higher in my results. So OKC might in fact be equal to jdate in attractiveness, but OKC does a better job of hiding the uglies. Then again, every other girl seemed to have some facial deformity or another. I even got IMed by a chick in another state who seemed to have down syndrome; she looked like Brian Peppers' sister, no joke.
Still, at least in my current location, I don't find jdate worth paying for. Despite having many fewer people, the girls near me, for instance, weren't much easier to get to meet up.
I was surprised to see girls so picky when the pickings were so slim in number - I'd try and IM a girl close by, where there are few people anyway, relative to the city center. And even run of the mill cute girls would refuse my IM request. It just felt bizarre to get rejected before I even got a chance to spit game, by merely decent girls. It feels like that doesn't happen on OKC to me except with the hottest girls. Maybe I have to up my stated income ($$$) on my profile. And if I go too far afield geographically, girls get hesitant with driving that far.
Jdate is probably best for dating 26+ Jewish girls looking to seriously date. Don't see many guys here wanting that arrangement, so JDate isn't a great choice for online dating. And even with Jewish girls, I prefer the kind who'd sign up for OKCupid rather than JDate, usually.
I've got a few other girls whose numbers I got off jdate, and am talking to them still, but it's not clear if a date will ever happen with them.
To be fair, my profile was not very polished or extensive.
JDate
A Comparison vs. OKCupid
Pros:
You can request to IM any girl online
Girls seem a little more likely to respond
Competition is probably weaker
The interface is less attention whore friendly, so girls do it less.
Cons:
Way fewer people.
Some women on it are serious about getting married, and will get put off by a sense of humor.
Really cookie cutter profiles, generally.
Can't tell who's slutty, as there's no OKC style questions.
The big one: the chicks are just uglier.
Interface is sucky, stuck in the year 2000.
The IM client asks for permission before displaying your message, and I get girls clicking no to IM before they've even seen what I've messaged. Getting rejected before I even have a chance.
Many of the jdate girls, especially the younger ones, are on both sites.
I had two dates so far out of it, and one I sent home within 15 minutes, the other was ehhh. I have another one lined up for tonight, but my expectations aren't great. Some Jewish girls are also very insistent on not driving to you, and it becomes this power struggle. And that's an absolute dealbreaker for me (unless she doesn't have a car, which is rare).
Also, a bizarrely high proportion of the girls sounded very mannish. I don't think that's true of Jewish girls in general, and my jdate sample is small, but something I noticed.
I think the chicks on it are uglier not so much because they're Jewish, but because cute girls just see it as a point of pride that they don't need to pay to get men. The ones that do are more likely to be looking for a husband. Cute girls sign up for OKC as sort of an off-the-cuff, let's see what happens kind of deal. Girls go on jdate to get a man. I think that's the biggest reason for the difference.
I went back to trawling OKCupid, and it was a vast improvement. OKC says I got rated as attractive, so it does put attractive people higher in my results. So OKC might in fact be equal to jdate in attractiveness, but OKC does a better job of hiding the uglies. Then again, every other girl seemed to have some facial deformity or another. I even got IMed by a chick in another state who seemed to have down syndrome; she looked like Brian Peppers' sister, no joke.
Still, at least in my current location, I don't find jdate worth paying for. Despite having many fewer people, the girls near me, for instance, weren't much easier to get to meet up.
I was surprised to see girls so picky when the pickings were so slim in number - I'd try and IM a girl close by, where there are few people anyway, relative to the city center. And even run of the mill cute girls would refuse my IM request. It just felt bizarre to get rejected before I even got a chance to spit game, by merely decent girls. It feels like that doesn't happen on OKC to me except with the hottest girls. Maybe I have to up my stated income ($$$) on my profile. And if I go too far afield geographically, girls get hesitant with driving that far.
Jdate is probably best for dating 26+ Jewish girls looking to seriously date. Don't see many guys here wanting that arrangement, so JDate isn't a great choice for online dating. And even with Jewish girls, I prefer the kind who'd sign up for OKCupid rather than JDate, usually.
I've got a few other girls whose numbers I got off jdate, and am talking to them still, but it's not clear if a date will ever happen with them.
To be fair, my profile was not very polished or extensive.