Quote: (05-26-2016 06:57 PM)456 Wrote:
^-- even without realizing it, you're hitting emotional buttons at some point during your process, when that process works.
Start to become conscious of it: notice when she suddenly opens up and becomes more comfortable, notice when she bites her lip and seems turned on, notice when your banter is taking an "us vs. them" flavor, or when you tell that one story that gets you riled up and passionate, and she reacts.
As you become aware of it, you can start to focus less on the process and more on enjoying yourself + making sure to hit those buttons.
It's like writing a song -- intro, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, verse, (pre-chorus,) chorus, bridge, chorus, out...
You don't have to be thinking about music theory and "process" to know you've been vamping on the verse for too long, time to rise up to the chorus!
Here's the point I am trying to make, it is almost impossible for me to become conscious of it. My ability to connect to and interpret emotions is very low. It is similar to high functioning aspergers or psychopathy.
I actually spent up to two years trying to understand the emotional side of relating to women, until I realized that it was a lost cause. Once I switched over to a methodical approach where I experimented with different moves, phrases, and strategies did my results improve.
This is where I find myself being in contention with the mainstream orthodoxy of game. Most of the members on this forum and many other forums I have been to, in addition to the instructors have sold the idea of the surrounding emotional connections and hitting emotional hotspots as being the way to entrap the hearts of women.
There is a smaller subset of us freaks out there where that approach simply does not work. Rather, a person like me has to work on memorizing all the different ways that certain types of body language is connected to different emotions and behavior sets. Then methodologically find what responses are the best to those different kinds of outwards representations of emotions.
In addition to this, I have to employ different framing mechanism in order to lead the direction of the relationship. I also have to do different moves like physical touching and paying attention to the direction the girl's feet are pointing, to test out her level of interest rather than having an intuitive feeling about it.
Much of what I do has crossover with the mainstream form of game, but the missing element is the emotional aspect. In my perception of reality, the emotional aspect simply does not exist or is such a small part that it is not relevant to how I approach interacting with girls.
I have tried to tap into the emotional side because I have heard of it from various people. Even my own cousin lives and breathes the heartstring game. Still, I have not been able to succeed within that aspect of game since my own brain was not developed that way.
If you want to see what I am talking about, I would watch videos of Paul Janka and even Krauser (who I know browses this forum) to see how the emotional side is subdued in favor of a more methodical, experimental, number game type of approach.
I am sure that I will always get murmurings of game denialism, but I just want to point out that there is a subset of us who see Game as something completely different from interfacing with a girl's emotions.