Chivalry does not make a girl want to sleep with you.
It does not make a girl grateful or appreciative.
If anything she grows to accept it, expect it, and often resent you for it. She can see it as you trying to control her.
The exact same thing happens with children, with customers, with clients.
When you give them care that is necessary, they react in predictable ways over time.
With children it's obvious that you have to keep doing this, even if they hate you for it.
With customers and clients, you do it to keep the money flowing in.
With women....
They tend to give you what you want if you give them things that make them react.
A regular guy who doesn't know game or understand typical female reactions (and how no female ever wants to be labeled typical, because she's a special little snowflake)
- holds doors open
- runs to open a door
- lifts heavy boxes
- opens jars
- will move furniture, fix cars and computers
He gives away his labor, his opportunity,
- he's a good dog trained by society
- he's a creep trying to nice his way into pussy
When an alpha opens a door, it's because he can do whatever he wants. He is not bound by rules, because he doesn't seek society's approval. He is the one to give approval.
When the player does any of this, he gets a cut, he gets an advantage. And if the price is high, he gets paid upfront.
The Alpha does not care what you think. He cares what he thinks. He's about principle.
The Player cares what people think because he can use that for his own gain. He's about practicality.
So a girl needs you to open a jar
- the average guy dutifully opens the jar like a golden retriever fetches a ball. Happy to be of service, please pet me
- the alpha opens the jar without a word, if he wants to
- the player takes the jar opening as an opportunity to play with the chick.
Everybody's a feminist until some real work needs to get done
Or
Lemme see that bicep,
- somebody needs to hit the gym, or
- someone's been working out. Hitting then 2.5 lbers everyday huh?
The Player takes the opportunities and he creates something pleasurable or something that gets him something.
Everyman in our culture has a bit of all of this in them. If I see a grandma struggling to reach a box of depends on the top shelf, I'll grab it for her.
That's the "good boy" that has been drilled into me.
The Alpha in me is like, that shit is annoying me, get it done now
But the player in me will start talking to her.
"Look at you, still out here living your life."
One of the lessons of game is that
I do not need to see things the way that other people see them.
I do not have to live up to their expectations
WIA
It does not make a girl grateful or appreciative.
If anything she grows to accept it, expect it, and often resent you for it. She can see it as you trying to control her.
The exact same thing happens with children, with customers, with clients.
When you give them care that is necessary, they react in predictable ways over time.
With children it's obvious that you have to keep doing this, even if they hate you for it.
With customers and clients, you do it to keep the money flowing in.
With women....
They tend to give you what you want if you give them things that make them react.
A regular guy who doesn't know game or understand typical female reactions (and how no female ever wants to be labeled typical, because she's a special little snowflake)
- holds doors open
- runs to open a door
- lifts heavy boxes
- opens jars
- will move furniture, fix cars and computers
He gives away his labor, his opportunity,
- he's a good dog trained by society
- he's a creep trying to nice his way into pussy
When an alpha opens a door, it's because he can do whatever he wants. He is not bound by rules, because he doesn't seek society's approval. He is the one to give approval.
When the player does any of this, he gets a cut, he gets an advantage. And if the price is high, he gets paid upfront.
The Alpha does not care what you think. He cares what he thinks. He's about principle.
The Player cares what people think because he can use that for his own gain. He's about practicality.
So a girl needs you to open a jar
- the average guy dutifully opens the jar like a golden retriever fetches a ball. Happy to be of service, please pet me
- the alpha opens the jar without a word, if he wants to
- the player takes the jar opening as an opportunity to play with the chick.
Everybody's a feminist until some real work needs to get done
Or
Lemme see that bicep,
- somebody needs to hit the gym, or
- someone's been working out. Hitting then 2.5 lbers everyday huh?
The Player takes the opportunities and he creates something pleasurable or something that gets him something.
Everyman in our culture has a bit of all of this in them. If I see a grandma struggling to reach a box of depends on the top shelf, I'll grab it for her.
That's the "good boy" that has been drilled into me.
The Alpha in me is like, that shit is annoying me, get it done now
But the player in me will start talking to her.
"Look at you, still out here living your life."
One of the lessons of game is that
I do not need to see things the way that other people see them.
I do not have to live up to their expectations
WIA