[misterstir]

(12-08-2011 03:09 PM)penisofgod Wrote:  

Please don't make fun of me but I was 29 the first time I went on a date and the first time I fucked. And now I'm nearing 31.

I'm a nerd, a big looser and a big masturbator. Now I live in France, hardly have any friends and my French is not good at all. I work at a university with lots of girls around but I've not even talked to one of them in the few months I've been here. (My job doesn't involve students.)

I'm 170 cm. Indians, Turks and latinos often think I'm one of them. But several girls have fled when I told them where I was actually from. It's difficult for me to lie or to roleplay.

I've read The Game and was enlightened a lot but I think asking female opinion about something as an opener or engaging a girl you've just met in a test is just absurd.

My fundamental problem, I believe, is that I don't care. HOW CAN YOU LOOSE SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T HAVE?? (I mean the 'target'.)
Let me give you an example. I went to a castle in the city. A lone girl who was taking photos caught my attention but I didn't approach her immediately. When I was exiting I saw her again checking the photos on her camera. I approached and said:

Hello
(no reaction)
Where are you from?
-Poland
I like photography too and put some of the photos I take on Flickr.
-(She noded and smiled.)
Are you here as a tourist?
-Noo!

While I was talking to her, she was still checking the photos on her camera. At this point I thought watching a DVD at home would be more fun than a conversation like this. So, I left without goodbye.

You may ask if I don't care why am I writing this. The answer is I do care but not in real time. For example in the case of that Polish girl, after leaving I thought she was probably a student and I could've talked to her about her major and student life. Also I could've shown my Flickr photos to her on my cellphone. Some regrets!

I have to ask where did you come from originally? what is your ancestry?
How come you do not speak french? This board is pretty international, so I don't see how your nationality could be the reason women fled from you.

One of the ways to build attraction is to ask a woman her opinion. Heck even if you make friends with a guy, just go up to him and ask him what he thinks of this or that. There could be a million reason the girl acted weird.

Now in your case you could have asked her about photography, her life/major etc. and the other things you brought up. You are still learning but sooner or later you'll add a few notches in your belt. Just keep in mind enxt time the kind of questions to ask

Even the TOP gurus who can have 4 somes of girls drooling over their dicks one time and can fuck them all can't pick up every girl. They can get phone numbers from a high % of women, but the reality you'll have trouble getting one night stands from more than 10-15% of women, and only 40% of women at any given time are open to being approached by men. In otherwords, if a single 1 girl is not receptive to you, don;t make much of it.


I play a relatively safe game in that I usually only approach girls who make eye contact (ie show interest in me) but I'm also above average in looks department. But you can still getlots of women without good looks.