Hey,
I am 22 years old, about 5'9 and in great shape (i hit the gym regulary 3years+).
I dress nice and have sorta "model look" - short beard and strong jaw. I am happy with my looks and I feel comfortable in my skin.
Even though I have little social anxiety in "daily life", I don't have a problem approaching girl in the club.
My biggest insecurity? My height - especially in clubs, because girls usually have heels and tend to be same height or even taller than me.
Ok so let me tell about 4 girls this weekend
Venue #1
Girl #1 - 19yo
I stop her when she is leaving the dance floor (with 1 friend) because she looked familiar
Me: Sarah??
Her : XXX
Me: Where are you going?
Her: To smoke
Me: Alright, let's go
I lead the way to smoking area (along with her and my friend)
We casually talk and it's going very well. She is smiling, fixing her hair, when I didn't hear her, she hugged me to speak closer to my ear.
I really liked this girls outgoingness and shit.
Out of sudden her friend says to her "we have to go" and they literally run away.
I didn't want to appear needy so I kinda forgot about her.
I didn't see her until we left the venue at same time.
Me: Why did you run away earlier? If you didn't like me you could just said it straight away
She is still pretty cool and seems interested.
Me: Alright, we are going out next week, save yourself.
She does, correct number, also real name (verified over FB later).
I text her next day
Me: "hey, whats up?"
Her: Whose number is this? <-- I feel alarmed at this point
Me: <group photo with me>
Her: the guy on the left, a?
Me: memory finally returning, huh?
Her: it returned already a while ago
Me: O really, what is my name then?
Her: I didn't even bother to remember yesterday
That really messed up with my head - I have no idea where I fucked up.
My theory is that she probably saw me approaching some other girl. But why would she give me number at the end?
Girl #2 - 18yo
She is dancing with her friend near me. I grab her, she dances with me (looks like she is enjoying) but for some reason I have trouble separating her from her friend (that stupid 2 girl circle dancing for theirselves thing). She is smiling though and all seems well.
Me: What's your name?
Her: X, and yours? <-- I always consider this as strong sign that girls likes me. In 9/10 cases when they ask back, I get atleast make out.
Me: Alright, put in your number, we will go out next week <-- She does, I ring her, the number is correct, so it is her name which I later verified over FB
I go for a smoke and text her in some mins "where are you?" and boom, no response. I probably fucked up because I let her go, but she was always returning to her stupid friend, and I didn't want to be too intrusive
Girl #3 - age unknown but I would say 19-20 max
She is dancing quite far from me, but I caught her looking in my direction.
I approach and dance like 3 minutes with her. She complies, I twirl her and everything is going well. I thought she's mine already. Then I notice she is trying to get away for some reason. Then she says "We can dance but nothing more" - I didn't want to look needy and I said "Yeah sure" - and the same second she goes away.
Venue #2
Girl #4 - 24 yo
I hit new venue, light a smoke, see her dancing and approach
Me: What's your name?
Her: XXX
Me: Alright, finish your drink and let's dance
We dance like 5minutes (she loves grinding), soon I escalate and kiss her.
She is giving shit about she doesn't want to leave her friend (problem I always face when approaching set from 2 girls group). I somehow manage to convince her, we leave and we fuck.
Questions:
I noticed girls usually think I am like 25years old. Maybe that is turning away younger girls?
Maybe they are scared of my muscle? I am not hulk, but apparently it's noticeable even through long sleeved shirt. I noticed I am having far bigger success rate when wearing shirts compared to tshirts or tank tops where muscles are more visible. But older chicks seem to digg that.
Maybe I am approaching girls under my level and they perceive me as "fuck boy" who just wants to take advantage of them?
Thanks for all your comments
I am 22 years old, about 5'9 and in great shape (i hit the gym regulary 3years+).
I dress nice and have sorta "model look" - short beard and strong jaw. I am happy with my looks and I feel comfortable in my skin.
Even though I have little social anxiety in "daily life", I don't have a problem approaching girl in the club.
My biggest insecurity? My height - especially in clubs, because girls usually have heels and tend to be same height or even taller than me.
Ok so let me tell about 4 girls this weekend
Venue #1
Girl #1 - 19yo
I stop her when she is leaving the dance floor (with 1 friend) because she looked familiar
Me: Sarah??
Her : XXX
Me: Where are you going?
Her: To smoke
Me: Alright, let's go
I lead the way to smoking area (along with her and my friend)
We casually talk and it's going very well. She is smiling, fixing her hair, when I didn't hear her, she hugged me to speak closer to my ear.
I really liked this girls outgoingness and shit.
Out of sudden her friend says to her "we have to go" and they literally run away.
I didn't want to appear needy so I kinda forgot about her.
I didn't see her until we left the venue at same time.
Me: Why did you run away earlier? If you didn't like me you could just said it straight away
She is still pretty cool and seems interested.
Me: Alright, we are going out next week, save yourself.
She does, correct number, also real name (verified over FB later).
I text her next day
Me: "hey, whats up?"
Her: Whose number is this? <-- I feel alarmed at this point
Me: <group photo with me>
Her: the guy on the left, a?
Me: memory finally returning, huh?
Her: it returned already a while ago
Me: O really, what is my name then?
Her: I didn't even bother to remember yesterday
That really messed up with my head - I have no idea where I fucked up.
My theory is that she probably saw me approaching some other girl. But why would she give me number at the end?
Girl #2 - 18yo
She is dancing with her friend near me. I grab her, she dances with me (looks like she is enjoying) but for some reason I have trouble separating her from her friend (that stupid 2 girl circle dancing for theirselves thing). She is smiling though and all seems well.
Me: What's your name?
Her: X, and yours? <-- I always consider this as strong sign that girls likes me. In 9/10 cases when they ask back, I get atleast make out.
Me: Alright, put in your number, we will go out next week <-- She does, I ring her, the number is correct, so it is her name which I later verified over FB
I go for a smoke and text her in some mins "where are you?" and boom, no response. I probably fucked up because I let her go, but she was always returning to her stupid friend, and I didn't want to be too intrusive
Girl #3 - age unknown but I would say 19-20 max
She is dancing quite far from me, but I caught her looking in my direction.
I approach and dance like 3 minutes with her. She complies, I twirl her and everything is going well. I thought she's mine already. Then I notice she is trying to get away for some reason. Then she says "We can dance but nothing more" - I didn't want to look needy and I said "Yeah sure" - and the same second she goes away.
Venue #2
Girl #4 - 24 yo
I hit new venue, light a smoke, see her dancing and approach
Me: What's your name?
Her: XXX
Me: Alright, finish your drink and let's dance
We dance like 5minutes (she loves grinding), soon I escalate and kiss her.
She is giving shit about she doesn't want to leave her friend (problem I always face when approaching set from 2 girls group). I somehow manage to convince her, we leave and we fuck.
Questions:
I noticed girls usually think I am like 25years old. Maybe that is turning away younger girls?
Maybe they are scared of my muscle? I am not hulk, but apparently it's noticeable even through long sleeved shirt. I noticed I am having far bigger success rate when wearing shirts compared to tshirts or tank tops where muscles are more visible. But older chicks seem to digg that.
Maybe I am approaching girls under my level and they perceive me as "fuck boy" who just wants to take advantage of them?
Thanks for all your comments