[CO] = Conclusion
I'm working on eating breakfast in the morning and making my lunch at home whenever I can. I have more trouble staying consistent with it and making it a habit of eating full meals. Either I end up staying up late to finish assignments and sleep later so I skip breakfast, or I get an extremely small window to get food for lunch and scrounge up whatever food's closest to me.
My approaches have been more scattered for the past few weeks. I've been bombing hard or downright avoiding approaches despite having a decent amount of girls sitting by themselves in the student commons. I still find approaching stressful, and I find myself stuck between feeling bummed out because I skipped out on a potential lead or getting overly anxious because the approach didn't go well for whatever reason.
14. [D]: I see an Asian girl sitting by herself on her laptop. I acknowledge her with a nod and slight smile, and she briefly does the same back to me. I can feel my heart rate spike and the blood rush to my face. I realize I held back from getting a conversation going, and I'm scrambling to come up with an excuse to get her talking. I pull out my Physics textbook and journal and pretend to focus on it for a few minutes. I decide to ask her if I could use her laptop to look something up for a class, and she pushes it over to me. She has an accent and all the text on her laptop is in Japanese or some other noodle language, so I figure she must be an international student. I do what I can to get her talking as I check on a few assignments on the laptop, but her responses are mostly brief. I go back to my physics work for a bit longer before ejecting. I could feel the nervousness leaking out from my softened tone of voice, and I ended up choking on my words instead of spitting them out.
15. [D]: After finishing up in my physics class, I sit down at a table with a girl looking at her phone while listening to music with earbuds in her ears. She gives a quick smile and then goes back to her screen. I freeze up by thinking about how she'll react if I talk to her or tap her on the shoulder to get her attention. All I let myself do from here is stare at my backpack waiting for it to give me some advice and glancing back at the clock to gauge the amount of time I've spent with my thumb up my ass. After a few moments of inaction, I grab my backpack and head home.
(These past two approaches set the tone for the rest of the week, and I ended up skimping on approaching the following week too.)
16. [D]: I see a blonde girl with a baseball cap on her head messing with her phone. I immediately walk up to the seat next to her and decide to ramble on about my physics class. I talk about the grueling hours and the heavy content in the class. I set the bait and get her to talk a bit on her end. Shortly after, she picks up her book and starts reading. I struggled to reengage in conversations with previous girls after my train of though derailed into fiery oblivion, but my gut told me to keep going. I ask her about the book and rambled about reading dry and uninteresting books back in middle school and high school. I crack a few jokes about the book, and she chuckles. She's still holding the book open with her hands, so I think she was intent on reading it still. I take out my physics homework and work on it while she focuses on the book. She excuses herself about 5 or 10 minutes later. She says goodbye once, and then she says see you later after I wave her off. She came off timid, but her tone was warm and welcoming; she held up her side of the conversation well when she did talk. I think she was receptive to my approach, but this time she was the one who felt overly anxious and had to eject. That's what I got from the interaction anyway.
17. [D]: I see the back of a blonde girl's head. Since I can't see her face, there's a 50/50 shot she could be cute or ugly. I approach anyway and see she's looking at outfits on a tablet. I tease her by saying that it doesn't look like homework. I run out of things to say a few seconds in, and go bug a guy on a laptop further down the hallway. He seems irritated by me, but I keep talking anyway until he decides to the end the conversation abruptly with a goodbye. It seems girls are not the only ones with uptight cum-up-their-bum attitudes. Overall, this was my first time making an approach by purely teasing a girl and not starting out with a question, so I consider it a success even if the interaction didn't really go anywhere.
[CO]: While being able to approach anywhere is part of my end game, I'm starting to think it's a lot easier to find places where there are multiple targets to day game. Building momentum in the beginning is hard, but once I get into a social mood it makes talking to anyone much easier. When I've only got a couple people I can talk to who are by themselves and I have little time to approach, I tend to bullshit myself and make up reasons why I can't talk to them. I think Summer is a key turning point for me to make a more serious move into game. Building myself up in this time-frame will be key for when I start attending university in the fall of this year.
I'm working on eating breakfast in the morning and making my lunch at home whenever I can. I have more trouble staying consistent with it and making it a habit of eating full meals. Either I end up staying up late to finish assignments and sleep later so I skip breakfast, or I get an extremely small window to get food for lunch and scrounge up whatever food's closest to me.
My approaches have been more scattered for the past few weeks. I've been bombing hard or downright avoiding approaches despite having a decent amount of girls sitting by themselves in the student commons. I still find approaching stressful, and I find myself stuck between feeling bummed out because I skipped out on a potential lead or getting overly anxious because the approach didn't go well for whatever reason.
14. [D]: I see an Asian girl sitting by herself on her laptop. I acknowledge her with a nod and slight smile, and she briefly does the same back to me. I can feel my heart rate spike and the blood rush to my face. I realize I held back from getting a conversation going, and I'm scrambling to come up with an excuse to get her talking. I pull out my Physics textbook and journal and pretend to focus on it for a few minutes. I decide to ask her if I could use her laptop to look something up for a class, and she pushes it over to me. She has an accent and all the text on her laptop is in Japanese or some other noodle language, so I figure she must be an international student. I do what I can to get her talking as I check on a few assignments on the laptop, but her responses are mostly brief. I go back to my physics work for a bit longer before ejecting. I could feel the nervousness leaking out from my softened tone of voice, and I ended up choking on my words instead of spitting them out.
15. [D]: After finishing up in my physics class, I sit down at a table with a girl looking at her phone while listening to music with earbuds in her ears. She gives a quick smile and then goes back to her screen. I freeze up by thinking about how she'll react if I talk to her or tap her on the shoulder to get her attention. All I let myself do from here is stare at my backpack waiting for it to give me some advice and glancing back at the clock to gauge the amount of time I've spent with my thumb up my ass. After a few moments of inaction, I grab my backpack and head home.
(These past two approaches set the tone for the rest of the week, and I ended up skimping on approaching the following week too.)
16. [D]: I see a blonde girl with a baseball cap on her head messing with her phone. I immediately walk up to the seat next to her and decide to ramble on about my physics class. I talk about the grueling hours and the heavy content in the class. I set the bait and get her to talk a bit on her end. Shortly after, she picks up her book and starts reading. I struggled to reengage in conversations with previous girls after my train of though derailed into fiery oblivion, but my gut told me to keep going. I ask her about the book and rambled about reading dry and uninteresting books back in middle school and high school. I crack a few jokes about the book, and she chuckles. She's still holding the book open with her hands, so I think she was intent on reading it still. I take out my physics homework and work on it while she focuses on the book. She excuses herself about 5 or 10 minutes later. She says goodbye once, and then she says see you later after I wave her off. She came off timid, but her tone was warm and welcoming; she held up her side of the conversation well when she did talk. I think she was receptive to my approach, but this time she was the one who felt overly anxious and had to eject. That's what I got from the interaction anyway.
17. [D]: I see the back of a blonde girl's head. Since I can't see her face, there's a 50/50 shot she could be cute or ugly. I approach anyway and see she's looking at outfits on a tablet. I tease her by saying that it doesn't look like homework. I run out of things to say a few seconds in, and go bug a guy on a laptop further down the hallway. He seems irritated by me, but I keep talking anyway until he decides to the end the conversation abruptly with a goodbye. It seems girls are not the only ones with uptight cum-up-their-bum attitudes. Overall, this was my first time making an approach by purely teasing a girl and not starting out with a question, so I consider it a success even if the interaction didn't really go anywhere.
[CO]: While being able to approach anywhere is part of my end game, I'm starting to think it's a lot easier to find places where there are multiple targets to day game. Building momentum in the beginning is hard, but once I get into a social mood it makes talking to anyone much easier. When I've only got a couple people I can talk to who are by themselves and I have little time to approach, I tend to bullshit myself and make up reasons why I can't talk to them. I think Summer is a key turning point for me to make a more serious move into game. Building myself up in this time-frame will be key for when I start attending university in the fall of this year.
"Their emotional waves will swamp you if you're just quietly-floating, so you need to learn to surf." - AnonymousBosch
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