[mickeyd]

Your feelings are being driven by external looks. You appreciate the average girl who compensates with cooking, care, affection yet you don't think the hot girl should be held to the same standard. Instead of trying to immediately fuck the hot girl, try making a similar demand for care, cooking, favors, etc. You will quickly see what feminine, caring character lies beneath the makeup. That should be enough to crush your misguided feelings and go full circle to pursuing first date sex unless she shows positive qualities that deserve more of your time and effort.