Quote: (03-02-2016 11:03 PM)Lex S. Wrote:
This is a HUGE red flag for me. There's a saying that goes "Only women understand other women and they hate each other". If a girl doesn't have any female friends then that means she's probably such an utter cunt that she can't even keep bitchy girls around. You'll also notice these girls tend to be hot - The only reason guys can tolerate her assumed shitty behavior is because of her looks. Why else would guys get strung along as orbiters if they weren't trying to hit it? If she was ugly then she'd be forever alone. These girls also tend to be "one of the guys", meaning they adopt masculine traits to try and fit in that can be really unattractive.
I hooked up with a girl like this recently and it was just not good. I knew she had lots of male friends and it didn't bother me.....Until she went through her text messages in front of me to find a text I had sent her not 3 hours before. Scrolling through her inbox there must've been easily 10-15 guys who texted her between the time of my last text to her and then. I don't know if these were orbiters or guys she was fucking, but I'd imagine it wouldn't have stopped if we became exclusive. Can you imagine your girlfriend getting texts from 10 guys in the span of one Saturday night while you're out with her? Or having "Boys night out" while you're stuck at the office late?
It doesn't stop. People don't engage in some sort of behaviour that hits the reward circuits for a long time and then quit cold turkey. People seem to have the idea that you can undo ingrained patterns (that you do while single) when you're of a sudden in a relationship. "Oh when I'm in a relationship, I don't sleep around even though I've slept around a ton in the past." That's like coke fiend saying he can easily stop doing coke because he now has a gf and she wants him to stop. The best predictor of behaviour is past behaviour. Screen diligently and with much prejudice.
She may stop for a while when she's trying to lock you down, but once that's complete, the she'll start responding to the sneaker fuckers again. Just NEXT NEXT NEXT and don't look back.