[Lex S.]

(03-02-2016 12:34 PM)SudoRoot Wrote:  

I have sworn to never strike up something sexually with a Girl, that has direct Connection to my work and/or social circle. This bring nothing but Trouble in my opinion. You said it yourself: Guy who can actually cold Approach shouldn't rely on social proof and "warm" approaches. So I choose Cold Approach over incest anytime, because:

-Meeting and conquering completely new Girls is 10x rewarding
-invading foreign social Groups/circles is fun as hell
-Girls are unpredictable and she can cause way less damage, when shes not related to your immediate Environment.
-I would have to rely on Chance, in order to get new women in my life

Gaming Girls in your social circle might be easier and feel safer, but it is BY NO MEANS wort the potential Trouble afterwards.

I agree on all points. My big thing is being able to walk away in a clean break if things end badly. You can't do this if you're dating your friend's sister or someone you work with. It also goes against abundance mentality - If you're a stud with good game you should be able to pull a girl from anywhere, right? So why do you have to focus on someone you pretty much already know? What if there are better girls out there?

In an extreme example, I saw a video on Youtube of a bunch of Americans taking a tour of Odessa to pick out potential future wives. Most of the guys were too scared to talk to the girls. One of the guys got along with one of the girls very well, though.....Because she was the tour guide. In his mind it was safer to talk to a girl who he had already been introduced to (That wasn't even on the market) than go out and meet someone else.

(03-02-2016 02:15 PM)Vincent Chase Wrote:  

I view Don't Shit Where You Eat as work only.

Anything outside of work is fair game. In fact you'll be missing out massively if you apply it to social circles, school, church etc.

Where the fuck will you plan to meet girls then the nunnery?

If you split up with a girl from a close social circle she'll do her best to avoid you anyway.

Seriously who gives a fuck, we're not in high school anymore and are fully grown adults.

Do not be phased by drama.

If you don't approach in your social circle, university, social gatherings etc you will not be shitting where you eat you'll be shitting on yourself.

I completely get what you're saying. But why not try and expand your horizons beyond the social circle? You can only know so many girls through social groups, but there are exponentially more girls out there in the wild.

As far as drama, you can only control what you do in these situations and not what other people do. I got burned recently by dating a girl I met through a mutual friend. It was my first time doing this in a long time, and it ended BADLY. I went NC and tried to move on with my life. Only problem was there was a guy in my social group who I also work with who also happens to never pursue a girl unless they have mutual friends, are friends, or he works with her. So he zeroes in on this girl and they begin dating. At first I was fine with it - Things didn't work out between us, I was NC, and he'd no doubt have to deal with all her bullshit now. Only problem is this girl I had never wanted to see again keeps popping up and this guy keeps rubbing it in my face that he's dating her now. Because I work with him I can't completely avoid him, so I've chosen to only speak with him about work-related topics. If he brings her up I ignore it or change the subject. So I can't control what comes out of his mouth, but I can change my attitude about the situation to limit him blabbing about her. Still, it's a headache and it's making me dislike him. The best solution would've been to never have dated this girl. And it's a lesson learned, figure out where drama can be created and avoid it at all costs.