All very valuable advice- thanks so much everyone! The gist seems to be what I already knew: I need to be happy about myself, and work on myself, with the woman being a supplement to that. While I certainly am willing to walk away from the current relationship, I'm afraid that I took the "I don't care" attitude a little too far to the point where I'd rather be alone than with her most nights. I can't go back to caring like I did when we first started dating and I wanted to get laid. In retrospect that was the wrong approach. For the next girl, I'll need to focus more on me and just let the chips fall where they may.
It's difficult juggling the power dynamic, but I also know I shouldn't have to be thinking about it all the time. It should be more natural. In my defense, I am still pretty new at this.
It's difficult juggling the power dynamic, but I also know I shouldn't have to be thinking about it all the time. It should be more natural. In my defense, I am still pretty new at this.