In every relationship there is the "adorer" and the "adoree".
If you are the adoree (cares less) then you don't get to enjoy being in love. That's the rub.
Dalaran above makes a great observation about successful guys being able to keep their girl "in doubt" about whether he really does see her as "The One". That's the key. If you can make a woman believe you "might" see her as the One, but she's never quite sure, then she will always be invested in trying to make you see her as the One. You can drive a woman mad this way.
You bring up a great question though. "How can I be the adorer, but still not be too vulnerable. Still have her think she doesn't quite have me."
I'm not sure, but I think if you truly believe in something higher, something that is more important than any woman, any person really, then that can be the force that keeps you grounded. And if you have that, she will sense it about you, and you really are less vulnerable to the vicissitudes of a woman.
If you are the adoree (cares less) then you don't get to enjoy being in love. That's the rub.
Dalaran above makes a great observation about successful guys being able to keep their girl "in doubt" about whether he really does see her as "The One". That's the key. If you can make a woman believe you "might" see her as the One, but she's never quite sure, then she will always be invested in trying to make you see her as the One. You can drive a woman mad this way.
You bring up a great question though. "How can I be the adorer, but still not be too vulnerable. Still have her think she doesn't quite have me."
I'm not sure, but I think if you truly believe in something higher, something that is more important than any woman, any person really, then that can be the force that keeps you grounded. And if you have that, she will sense it about you, and you really are less vulnerable to the vicissitudes of a woman.