[Anabasis to Desta]

I think viewing abundance mentality through a numerical lens and saying stuff like "there are hot girls all around bro" is just pure male hamstering.

An average looking, non-fat girl working at Starbucks whose life consists of Netflix, gossip and your occasional night out has more options than a good-looking, jacked, stylish dude who's got his shit together and travels internationally on the reg. It's not even a competition! A very minuscule percentage of men will ever have the type of numerical abundance mentality your average girl has.

That is reality.

Lets assume your girl is acting up and causing you migraines. Instead of nexting her, a lot of us try to fix what's broken and stay in soul draining relationships because developing the kind of connection you have with your current girl can seem hard to replicate.

This is where i apply abundance mentality in the form of " She is nothing special. Whatever i have with her i can have with another girl" instead of "there are 3.5 billion women in this world!!".

This is more in line with reality while at the same time priming your brain not to take any particular girl too seriously.

So i think abundance mentality has to be viewed qualitatively instead of numerically.