Running 2-3 LTRs, and still hitting on girls when it is possible, here is my advice:
1. You don't raise the subject EVER (as you said).
2. When it comes up, be bold about it.
3. Say: "I enjoy being with you, and want to be with you" (you have to mean it).
4. If a girl pressures you, tell her you are not ready yet. Hint that you might be someday, but currently it is your option.
5. Tell her you will be sorry if she leaves, but it is HER CHOICE.
6. Sit back and watch how the Forebrain and the Hindbrain wrestle.
Be prepared for some to leave.
Make sure you groom the ones who stay.
Do not be afraid of them becoming attached to you. You were honest and open, they CHOSE it.
Good luck
1. You don't raise the subject EVER (as you said).
2. When it comes up, be bold about it.
3. Say: "I enjoy being with you, and want to be with you" (you have to mean it).
4. If a girl pressures you, tell her you are not ready yet. Hint that you might be someday, but currently it is your option.
5. Tell her you will be sorry if she leaves, but it is HER CHOICE.
6. Sit back and watch how the Forebrain and the Hindbrain wrestle.
Be prepared for some to leave.
Make sure you groom the ones who stay.
Do not be afraid of them becoming attached to you. You were honest and open, they CHOSE it.
Good luck
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