Quote: (12-08-2015 04:06 PM)thoughtgypsy Wrote:
Ok, so you acknowledge you want a close friend. That's a good start. I understand it's not gonna be easy, but at least you've got something to work towards.
Traveling isn't conducive for that. Unless you stay put in the same area for long periods of time, it's gonna be hard to form close connections with locals. Those take time, usually through shared activities. Perhaps you could join a meetup group that requires shared activities that minimize the need to be a social butterfly, maybe something like a hiking group. After enough sessions, maybe they'll grow comfortable with you and be willing to form tighter bonds.
Have you tried searching the forums for threads about forming friendships and growing your social circle?
I've done that, I've even tried to make my own meetups via local reddits and never worked out well. I just have trouble connecting to anymore, and as more time passes the more insecure I get about it the the more shields I put up.
Quote: (12-08-2015 04:20 PM)worldwidetraveler Wrote:
One of the things that make people happy is having something to look forward too. Something that gets you excited when waking up in the morning.
I understand you're lonely, but I don't think having a friend will break you out of this funk.
I do think you need to find something that ends up becoming a passion.
Something that you could lose yourself doing. Something that will get you out of your own head. Meaning, you would be working on something and not focusing on how bad life is or that you're lonely or whatever bad thoughts may pop in when you're sitting their dwelling on the bad.
Hopefully this is something that could even become a profession.
Don't get me wrong, having friends is important. I do think you will make better friends when you find people that have the same passion. I understand you think the root cause of your depression is loneliness. That may be a part of it, but I think it isn't as big as not having path/passion to look forward too.
I mean I did this for years. I can't lose myself in anything anymore, when I watch a movie I just think about how much life sucks.