Quote: (11-23-2015 08:41 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
Quote: (11-22-2015 10:59 PM)greekgod Wrote:
Lastly, if you can give chicks the feeeeelz good in a work environment, you'll get away with a lot.
What's the best way to accomplish that? Nice guy game without being supplicant, aka lots of pull without push? I already did the basics like complimenting them on their hair/outfits, asking them about their life, but too much of that and you risk coming off as kiss-ass.
I'm always good with push/pull game but it feels weird now that you can not "push".
You can push. But that isn’t the point. Many people feel like frauds at work so if you keep the tone positive in a “devil may care” vibe, people will appreciate your ability to bring some levity to the table. On external situations, I let my temper go off the hook and can talk like a despondent, brash prick. But that is because everyone knows there are certain parts of our business which suck and my losing it causes laughs. Internally, I try to keep it off personal topics (avoiding reinforcing misery talk) and my discussions as objective as possible.
In other words, I create the other vs. them mentality on external and internally try to foster a no drama, progress oriented topics. There are certain that I’ll get more personal with but they’ve proven to be “trustworthy”
It took me 10 months to figure out how to work in a female dominated environment.
Heard this quote recently; men feel what they think and women think what they feel. So keep em feeling good about you.
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If your boss is a chick, try your best to defer to the royalty, make her feel like shes in control and you'll face little resistance in whatever you do.
Yeah I thought so too. But if she explicitly said that she likes assertive people (she seems nice enough with her team and me, but pretty territorial as a boss), should I ignore the trap and still play submissive?
No. You always stay proactive but just make her aware of everything. All chicks are micromanagers, you gotta feed the beast by over communicating to make them feel in control. Your still doing your own thing but they feel like you respect their authority because you confer with them about the status of decisions.
Shes the flag ship in your pirate convoy but you’re ship crushes it; still gotta make the captain aware of your moves.