With girls here in China (I can't speak for FOB in USA), 100% of the time if I don't bang in two dates, I never bang (or only bang after considerable effort that takes 6 months to one year).
To respond to this, I have a system. The first date is dinner followed by second venue cocktails. If I get to a hook point, I'll attempt to transport them home (I always meet for dates within walking distance of my home).
If I don't get to a strong hook point or logistics don't allow for a first date bang, I invite them over for the dinner at my place on the second date. If she isn't open to this, she isn't into me and I'm not going to get the bang anyway. At that point, I can safely conclude that she's more interest in being seen in public than in me specifically and I won't further pursue.
To respond to this, I have a system. The first date is dinner followed by second venue cocktails. If I get to a hook point, I'll attempt to transport them home (I always meet for dates within walking distance of my home).
If I don't get to a strong hook point or logistics don't allow for a first date bang, I invite them over for the dinner at my place on the second date. If she isn't open to this, she isn't into me and I'm not going to get the bang anyway. At that point, I can safely conclude that she's more interest in being seen in public than in me specifically and I won't further pursue.
I'm the King of Beijing!