[PapayaTapper]

(10-13-2015 04:58 AM)Talekhine Wrote:  

Recently I was in the process of trying to work through LMR with a girl and it seemed like nothing I was doing was turning her on. This has happened a couple times to me in the past. It's pretty much always in a situation where a girl is putting up some (token) resistance, and I'm attempting to get her in the mood via making out, groping, rubbing her pussy over her clothes, fingering her, etc. When this happens and I'm fingering such a girl, she'll get a little bit wet but still be fairly dry, and then it seems like the longer I finger her when she's dry, the more awkward it becomes and the less turned on she gets because we're both aware that she's not getting turned on. In these situations the girl is normally "letting things happen" to her, but not actively participating (not actively grinding into me or running her hands over me or anything).

I'm fairly experienced (~50 notches) and the vast majority of times I'm with a girl things go well. However sometimes the above happens, and I'd like to get better at dealing with it.

My take on it is that when this happens it stems from a failure of game leading up to that point. If a girl is attracted to you from the way you've been gaming her, she'll naturally be turned on when you start escalating. So the problem isn't really with physical technique for turning a girl on.

The other thing I'm assuming is that I need to amp up the dominance. When the above stuff happens, I'm generally escalating pretty slowly because I'm trying to build up tension. However slow escalation can also come off as lack of initiative / lack of dominance.

Third, I think I continue too long with "slow escalation" when it's not working well. If I'm fingering a girl for 30 seconds and she's not clearly getting a lot wetter, then I should probably do something else. Like verbally command her to do something, stop fingering her and maybe manhandle her a bit, or some other dominant action.

What do you guys think? How do you handle it when a girl isn't really responding well to your escalation?

^^^^Edit: Just re read your original post so you get it.