Quote: (10-10-2015 12:33 PM)BambiNotForLong Wrote:
I'm a newbie as well so don't quote me on this but I think holding your hand out to a chick you've never spoken to for a dance is the worst thing you can do.
Good luck bro!
How so? It doesn't take much time to go from a hand shake to holding hands.
To OP it sounds like your weren't mentally prepared enough when you went out. You might want to start your preparations early. Watch some comedy and a fairly small amount of weight lifting then take a walk into town. Supermarkets, shops etc and talk to anybody to get you into a social mood.
Then each bar you go into think to yourself 'how would I act if I were the owner of this bar?' and walk around and talk as if that were true. Talk to guys, talk to girls ask them what they think of the venue, drinks selections and music etc. Ask them where they drank before coming there etc.
One of the girls you do this with will vibe with you well enough for you to proceed from there.
It might be worth starting in a town that is not your home town. That way if your vibe is not so cool to begin with you won't see any negative outcome from it. Might be worth getting a friend who has similar goals to you to wing for you to begin with.