There is no solution. It's a fact of our modern culture and demographics. Until those change, this doesn't change.
Why does flaking happen? Because you're a transient, disposable option among a bevy of options she has available to her that are better than you and/or are less disposable than you.
You can deal with this in three ways:
- Don't be disposable: Quit cold approach and focus on social circles/introductions.
- Become better than the next guy: Genetics permitting, increase your value so that now they flake on him to be with you instead. (Or, lower your standards and thus your competition.)
- Await a cultural collapse event that kills off the surplus male demographic and surplus wealth in society. (Not a wait I'd recommend.)
Why does flaking happen? Because you're a transient, disposable option among a bevy of options she has available to her that are better than you and/or are less disposable than you.
You can deal with this in three ways:
- Don't be disposable: Quit cold approach and focus on social circles/introductions.
- Become better than the next guy: Genetics permitting, increase your value so that now they flake on him to be with you instead. (Or, lower your standards and thus your competition.)
- Await a cultural collapse event that kills off the surplus male demographic and surplus wealth in society. (Not a wait I'd recommend.)