Quote: (09-20-2015 11:20 AM)Cobra Wrote:
Hey grasshopper.
I think you're doing the right things by building up your social circle etc. However, in reading through the way you go about it, you seem like a "people pleaser." I can tell because I've been there and then seen other guys bang the girls I was real "social" with.
Escalation is good and all but it will not come off as genuine if you don't change your mindset. Mentally, you need to be prepared to "focus" attention on one person or a few people rather than focusing on pleasing the crowd. You are not a clown.
I will disagree with this last bit. A lot of women are attracted to a clown. See chucklefuckers. Women like to fuck men that make them laugh. But you can't be taking any of this too seriously, you need to go for the make out and be willing to try to get a girl into bed, I think right now you are not trying to get the girls into bed because you are afraid they might reject you. Have the mindset that you need to make them reject you and push the interaction as far as you can physically.
By what you are describing, most of these girls you are meeting are totally into you but pick up that you don't know what to do, and since you don't escalate, you are boring them to tears and they leave you to go find a guy who gets it and knows how to lead them and understands the importance of escalating.