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(08-13-2015 12:18 PM)ksbms Wrote:  

That's a mistake I did last Thursday when intended to bed a tourist. Read about it here and how it panned out. I learnt my lesson and one of the reasons I posted it was so you and others in similar situation could do better. That's what this forum is for and it is in the same newbie section, just a few posts down the same page.

My conclusion was as follows:

1. Escalate until you have sex with the girl, unless she clearly indicates it is a no-go. Use your judgement, her resistance should take more than an hour, I think.
2. If 1. cannot be achieved, be courteous but firm and make her leave - call her a cab.

There's this middle ground where you could think, there's an option for early morning sex, but I think it's not that likely - you're both sober and it will feel awkward. As you can see, in my case it was futile.

You can be a nice guy, and let her sleep over. But as the saying goes, nice guys finish last. Don't be that guy.

I used to think exactly like you did but I disagree now. Unless the night is early and you have the opportunity to call another plate over for the bang there's really no downside to allowing her to sleep over and go for the early morning bang. I had a situation just like this happen about a month ago. The girl was very flirty but originally from China (came to the US when she was a small child) and clearly told me she wasn't comfortable having sex that same night we met. It was late and a weeknight so all I would have done was go to bed once she left. I figured I'll roll the dice and invite her to stay over. She accepted and when we woke up in the morning I encountered only light token resistance (mostly since I tried to go in raw but once I put a condom on it was off to the races ) and we had amazing morning sex.

I think for a lot of women waking up next to a guy triggers their relationship circuits and they're comfortable having morning sex since that's what they've likely done many times with previous boyfriends.

Edit: If the strong resistance is still there in the morning and I'm not getting at least a sloppy bj I'm going to hard next her and never look back. My invite is only good for one night if she's not putting out.