If you constantly reach out to her and she rarely does it to you, you've lost frame.
If you screwed up and you keep apologizing, you've lost frame.
If she doesn't do what you ask her to, you've lost frame.
If she talks down to you, you've lost frame.
If she doesn't think you're the shit, you've lost frame.
See where this is going?
There are not that many ways to regain frame if you've lost it. My favorite way to reframe is to drop off the face of the earth. Don't talk, text, or instant message her for at least a week. See what she does and go from there.
Just remember it's easier to start with a strong frame than it is to start with a weak one and reframe.
If you screwed up and you keep apologizing, you've lost frame.
If she doesn't do what you ask her to, you've lost frame.
If she talks down to you, you've lost frame.
If she doesn't think you're the shit, you've lost frame.
See where this is going?
There are not that many ways to regain frame if you've lost it. My favorite way to reframe is to drop off the face of the earth. Don't talk, text, or instant message her for at least a week. See what she does and go from there.
Just remember it's easier to start with a strong frame than it is to start with a weak one and reframe.
If it doesn't fit, force it... If it breaks, it needed replacing anyway.