Quote: (07-28-2015 03:08 AM)262 Wrote:
Asian-American here - so I understand the "looking out for your parents" thing.
But - have you talked to them about that, and the rest of your issues? If your parents are like mine, more than likely, what they want more for you more than anything else is financial security and children, assuming you don't have them already. And my guess is they would be fine with you going to another city - and maybe even abroad outside of India - if it gives you both.
Note that I'm not saying you have to give them grandchildren now, or even ever. On that note, you may also find that your parents' wishes for you are in conflict with your own desires. As I explained in my relocation thread, my mother was against me leaving the US, but I think she was able to accept the fact that if she ever wanted a suitable mother for her grandchildren, I was more likely to find one abroad than in the US. For you, financial security and/or better women may be easier to obtain in another city or abroad, even temporarily.
Thanks for your reply.
Yes, I have spoken to my parents about my issues and yes, you are right about they being in favour of the relocation.There is no pressure to get married and have grandchildren(incredibly rare for Indian parents), which is sort of a consolation.
As you would, no doubt, understand, what restrains me is my sense of responsibility, to "repay the debt", so to speak. They took lots of pains in bringing me up and I feel that I owe them something for those pains. I will definitely give your relocation thread a read.