Quote: (10-07-2011 11:53 AM)GermanDude Wrote:
When you try to meet chicks (esp. in another country), do you usually do cold approaches?
Or do some of you pull of the "approach one person (maybe a guy, who wont be jealous) just to get into a social circle with multiple women"?
It seems that for someone who doesnt rock at approaching, but is okay at it (I come from a public speaking anxiety and approach anxiety background but have worked on it a ton over the years to where Im at least better at it than most guys here in Germany).......this would be a much more rewarding way to do approaches.
One approach would equal access to multiple women. In the right social circles a couple of hot ones.
I assume Im not the first person to think of this (lol), but has anyone of you tested this technique? Is it better for people who are only "okay" at approaching?
GD, here is what works best for me regarding cold approaches in a foreign country: While walking around the city, innocently ask your target for directions to a place you already know about that is on her path of travel (that is on her path of travel is critical). When she explains the way, pretend to not understand, and if she would mind walking you to the place. If she likes you, this puts enough plausible deniability into play that she will acquiesce without feeling like she is doing anything more than displaying common courtesy. Then, talk to her while walking together. See if she likes you. Use your game. If all is good, then be forward and invite her to coffee right then and there as a way of saying thanks. No good? Denied? Then pick someone else, and start over. I did this in Bucharest, and it worked quite well. Good luck!