[Suits]

(05-20-2015 10:06 PM)polar Wrote:  

At the earliest point, a coach will be just a drill sergeant telling you to approach. You'll get some momentum, but if you don't keep going by yourself, you'll lose it and won't be far from square one. You need to learn to motivate yourself.

Find your city on the meet ups board, or post a new one, asking for help from some guys. If you feel the need to pay, offer to buy all their drinks / maybe a dinner in exchange for several hours of help. Bam, better return on investment than a coach.

#AskMeHowIKnow

I'm currently working on my approach, having been mainly a social circle game practitioner for many years. I found some guys with more skillz than me and had them ball-bust me into approaching over and over again.

I've gotten laid off of approaches in Hong Kong before, but that city is a great fit for me. Here in Beijing, I've been more hesitant to approach (largely because I just don't see as many girls who immediately strike my fancy and because I don't have strong confidence in my Chinese past basic communication).

But one afternoon out with a guy who was willing to pressure me into doing close to 20 approaches and I've already gotten laid from out of it.