[robreke]

(05-09-2015 04:17 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(05-09-2015 03:01 PM)robreke Wrote:  

Say you have a great place lined up with good logistics - a 5 minute walk from your pad.

You're texting the girl the day of the date and she asks if it's okay to meet in another part of town (presumably more convenient for her)

Assume she's hot. She still wants to meet. Work with her? Refuse to budge? Somewhere in the middle? How do you proceed?

If she's doing this for convenience, she's some what setting a precedent. I can only see you when it's convenient to me. A lot of hardliners would just balk at that idea. Team Conversion doesn't care. As long as I can get you alone, it's curtains.

If she's doing it for defense, i.e. she's not really feeling you, but not sure if she doesn't feel you, but what's an easy out if the date doesn't go right - that's really when have to be on your best game.

This quasi gets into the idea of "bringing your "A" game" and whether or not you always bring your A game, what is overgaming, and other matters for the keyboard sages.

But if she's just a regular chick who's just into herself and is doing it for convenience, your regular charm, provocative statements, questions, flirting, touch, et cetera is all you need. Her geographical issue is just a formality.

If she's on defense, you really have to rebuild your case as to why she should be sleeping with you @ 9:00 pm instead of looking @ the dessert menu. You can't play it nearly as "cool", you have to really actively engage her mind and body, to such an extent that time flies away from her perspective. Where you might make her laugh on Type A date, you want her sides to split and wine to come out of her nose on a Type B date. Bolder and bigger, more fireworks, more action.

Overall these are your options
1) Stand Firm - insist on meeting at your place, risk losing the shot because of your stubbornness, but set the tone for the interaction and rest of the relationship

2) It'll be worth it but make it sound like it's going to be worth it. - I.E I had something special planned.

3) Reschedule - Similar to the Stand firm - "I had something special planned, but if you can't make it, we'll just have to meet again." - and then use that opportunity to get on other broads, but leaving the door open for this one, and she's no notice that your time is valuable

4) Counter Offer - If this is a matter of convenience,
a) different time that night,
b) different venue, but closer to your original venue (which is close to your spot)

5) Agree - and trust that you have the ability to overcome any of her objections to fast sex.

In your shoes, I'm most likely to agree and I would assume that it's not convenience but ambivalence. So I'd go to her place and then proceed to go in as deep and hard and as powerful as I could.

I would make whatever the activity you have planned as atypical as possible.

So if you're meeting for drinks and it's just an exchange of biographical information, spots of humor, spots of "awe", a few brilliant insights, touches, and glances (which is typically all you need in a lot of cases) - then the drinks date would transition to pool/shuffle board, karaoke, dancing...or something much more active and physical and prone to crack her world view.

A lot of the game is getting her off of her predetermined script. So you can't just play your role as normal, you have to improvise.

WIA

^ Nice breakdown with different motives WIA. I like this thread in general because I and I'm sure others, have this happen.

For the particular girl in question, I agreed to a location "near down town" as she put it. However I qualified it:

Me : Sure, the xyz bar is close to where I'll be (not really true). Lets start there at 730.

Bottom line texts went back and forth. I could see the direction it was going so I lined up another girl at 830.

The girl in question cancels but I really think it was a matter of inconvenience with her which was one of your scenarios. She sent a very long text explaining she'd been buying stuff for her parents all day at Costco and her aunt's family showed up for mother's day today, etc. She asked to meet tomorrow and when I took a while to text back...even sent a picture of her aunt's family at the house (as proof I guess ) saying "lol aren't they cute though?"

Told her I'd let her know details of the date tomorrow.

So...tomorrow, I think I'm going to try to get her back to my original, logistically superior, venue to meet.