A bit tired from a long week, so I decided to forgo the usual Saturday night out and get some rest. Figuring I should be going out at least once a week, I thought a Sunday at one of my city’s more upscale rooftop bars was in order. I have never been to this bar rolling solo, but last time I went a couple of months ago with a mate the talent was outstanding.
Sunday 03/05
I’m hanging out in the smoking area of the rooftop bar, where a guy has just opened me about how I look like a guy that likes Neil Young. He seems cool so we talk music for a good amount of time.
Girl approaching me #1
Drunk half-Asian, cute 7, 18-20 opens the guy I’m talking to:
Her: Pointing towards me “Who is your friend here?”
Him: “This is Prof. Ligate”
Her: Puts hand out to shake my hand “Nice to meet you Prof. Ligate, I’m blah blah”
Me: “Hi there blah blah”
Her: “So what do you do Prof Ligate?”
Me: “I just hang out and play Xbox” Strong eye contact
Her: “Ahhh okay. You seem smart though. I’m really smart. I go to x+y prestigious university and study psychology. My boyfriend is a DJ here.”
Me: Thumbs up and sarcastic smile
Her: Starts talking with the other dude I was talking to. I exit interaction
At this point I’m a little concerned. I’ve forgotten that people start drinking on Sundays quite early and I’m nowhere near on the same level of intoxication. You can tell that a good amount of them have been into the oxy, some on coke. A look around the bar though and the quality of girls is quite good. A surplus of 7s and a smattering of 8s and 9s… but at the same time it is very cliquey and a lot of guys who are very well dressed and much more classically handsome than I am. If my goal with these 100 approaches is to improve quality then this is the place to do it.
I’m back at the smoking area where the guy who I was talking music before and his friends are still there. He offers me a cigarette.
Girl Approach Me #2
6, passing out drunk brunette 18-20, stumbles into me:
Her: “You’re really tall” hits her head on side-beam, almost falls over but holds onto me for support. Her friend comes over
Friend: “Come on blah blah we’re taking you home”
Other friend: “I can’t believe she was giving head to that guy in the bathroom before”
What the fuck. Next.
Approach #1
Tanned 6.5 brunette 20-22, waiting for service at the bar. I open:
Me: “That guy spilled beer down the side of my shirt. Look.”
Her: “Haha I saw. I think a few people have taken the Sunday beers a bit far…”
I ramble about the bar for a while… the pros and cons of the venue, music they are playing etc. Correctly guess that she is Canadian. I keep the banter nice and breezy and she seems kind of cool. She gets served first then waits for me to get my drink and then we walk from the bar. She tells me she has to go back to her friend but says she will ‘look out for me later on’. In a bar full of very attractive girls though, I’m kind of glad. Just getting warmed up.
I walk around the side of the bar where some college-bros are getting quite rowdy. They try to include me in their drinking game. I agree and say 1, 2, 3 go and the guy skulls his beer while I take a small sip of mine. I give him a wry smile before I see some girls sitting down looking very bored.
Approach #2
Very pretty 7.5 thin blonde, 18-19. I sit on an adjacent barstool above her and her slightly uglier friends. I open sarcastically:
Me: “Wow you guys look like you’re having a really wild night…”
Her: Smiling “I’ve just got off work… and my friends went out last night. We’re not going to be much fun tonight”
We talk about where she works, what she studies… looking back I went personal way too early. She is really sweet but a little quiet. There are a lot of pauses in our conversation but it’s not awkward. All up we talk for about 15 minutes and throughout she is asking personal questions. Feeling like I was wasting my time, I end the conversation and tell her I might catch up with her later on. I didn’t. She wasn’t really drinking much but I need to be number closing on these kind of girls if I’m not getting a SNL. Looking back it’s a little silly that I didn’t.
Approach #3
7.5 Blonde. 18. Would be a legit 9 if she lost maybe 10 pounds or so. She is sitting on a bar stool by herself while her uglier friend is talking to some model looking guy. I walk straight in front of her and open:
Me: “Wow could you look like you’re having a more terrible time?”
Her: Playing along, pouting “I want to go hoooome” Wry smile
We have a bit of back and forth, playful teasing etc. She complains how quickly the bar has died down. I rub her arm and suggest she should dance. She tells me she’s not in the mood and will watch me dance instead. I leave her for the dancefloor. And yes, I can confirm that I am a moron sometimes.
Approach #4
7 brunette 18-20, make eye contact on dancefloor. I open her with a “Hey there” and a wink and she’s receptive. Bullshit talk for a while, then five or so minutes later we’ve got our arms around each other. We grind. She says she’s going to get drinks with her friends and will be back.
I go back to the blonde (#3) on the bar stool. She asks if the brunette is my girlfriend. I tell her I have lots of friends here. She laughs and kind of bites her lip. I tell her to come dance and she says she would but her mother is picking her up soon (lol). I give her my phone and tell her to put her number in it. She blushes and giggles then does so. I go back to the dance floor. Should have kissed her
Approach #5
7 Half-Asian on the dancefloor 21-23. I open:
Me: “Wow you look like you’re having a ton of fun there”
Her: “Thanks haha I really am. I’m from x+y city just up here visiting for the weekend”
Bullshit talk for 5 or so minutes and then we are really getting into it. She backs up onto me then puts her hand down my jeans and gives me a tug for a while. Her friends tell her to come get drinks with them. “I’ll be back”.
The brunette from before (#4) sneaks up behind me on the dancefloor and gives me a hug. She says her friends are making her leave. I tell her she should stay. She says she really can’t she has class in the morning. I give her my phone. Number close.
I go to the bar for a drink, make a passing comment at a 7 brunette who is with another guy, I can’t remember exactly what I said but her jaw drops then playfully hits me. The guy says “She’s a little out of your league don’t you think mate”. I give the girl a wink and then I get opened by a girl.
Girl approach #3
19-21, tall blonde Russian-faced 8. We make heavy eye contact and then she opens:
Her: “I know you”
Me: Remembering where exactly I know her from “That’s right. X+y bar, I was pretty cooked that night.”
Her: “And we stayed at your friend’s apartment that one time and smoked crack in the bathroom” (This definitely did not happen. I’d also like to point out the amount of attractive young girls into hard drugs lately is absolutely ridiculous)
Me: Playing along “That was you?”
Her: “How drug fucked were you? Like you don’t remember.” She winks. She has me confused with someone else but we definitely have met at a bar before
Girl approach #4
18-20 tall Half-Asian 7, friends with last girl. She opens:
Her: “Fuck. You!”
Me: Rubbing her arm “Aw what did I do?”
Her: Gives me the finger. “When we were at your friends apartment, you stole all my shit. Fucking drug dealer piece of shit” Her friend is in laughter. Not sure if they are having me on or not. Weird that they would both have the same story about something I wasn’t involved in
I laugh it off and continue on to the smokers area.
Girl approach #5
Asian 7, 18-20, makes eye contact in the smoking area then opens with her short 7 brunette friend:
Her: “Oh my god it’s this guy”
Me: “I don’t think we’ve met” I rub her arm
Her: “What’s your name?”
Me: “I’m Prof. Ligate, and who are you?”
Her: “I’m blah blah. So what do you actually do Prof Ligate? You keep popping up everywhere” Starting to think I’m not exactly going under the radar. A little hard to do at 6’7 tall I guess
Me: “I just hang out”
Her: “Do you still live with your parents?”
Me: “No”
Her: “Do you deal drugs?” Her friend “Oh my god he’s a drug dealer”. I shrug. “You don’t look like you deal hard drugs though, just weed right?” Her friend “Do your parents know? What do your mom and dad think of you dealing drugs?” Jesus Christ.
Me: “It’s just my mom now”
Friend: “Oh… I’m so sorry.” I exit
Not sure what ‘angle’ I was working exactly playing the dead father card. I shoot myself in the foot way too often. I give no shits when I go out, but at the same time I have so little focus. I need to work on this. A little bit dumb that I need to remind myself “I’m out to get laid” over and over throughout the night, but writing this all out I can tell that that’s what it’s going to take.
I see the dfloor half-asian sitting down on a barstool in a group of friends and I go over. She asks me if she can have a piece of gum, and I say okay, as long as she shuffles over so I can have a seat. She does so, we chat for a bit. She introduces me to her friends. I tell her I need to go to the bathroom. I get up. On my way I see this really good looking guy spitting absolutely awful game to a girl (I forget what exactly, but some clichéd pickup line) then walking away to the bar. The girl and her friends awkwardly laugh.
Approach #6
Tall 8.5 brunette. Model looks. I grab her arm, deadpan expression, and deliver the exact same cheesy line the last guy said. She hits me playfully and her friend says “Oh my god is that guy for real?” I walk to the bathroom and come back to them:
Her: “Look who it is”
Me: “Did you miss me?”
Her: “Did you steal all my friend’s alcohol when she stayed at your friend’s apartment? Why would you do that?”
Me: “I honestly have never met that girl before in my life. I know your other friend from x+y bar”
Her: “Okay, I believe you”
Me: “Cool jacket” I feel the material. Playing around with it. Work my hand down to her waist.
Her: Sultry eye contact “It’s very expensive”
Interrupted. Security is rounding people up. “Bar is closed!” It’s only just after 1am. I had no idea shit closed so early on a Sunday.
I take the elevator down with the girl, her Russian looking friend and a couple of other friends they are with. “Okay we’re going, bye!” They dart off in a cab before I even had a chance to close. Fucking hell.
I see the 18 yo blonde from before (#3) sitting down with her friend. She introduces me to her friend. Chit chat for a bit and then she answers a phone call from her mom... then says she really has to leave. I kiss her on the forehead and then I call it a night.
Totals
15 Approaches
2 Numbers
1 Lay
So I’m definitely over my approach anxiety with hotter girls, but I just need to punch on through with taking girls home. I think I’m still used to sub-par girls throwing themselves at me rather than me putting in the work. On this night I’ve learned a few things: I’m fully comfortable with rolling solo... even rich girls are slutty… and approaching high-value girls only has benefits. Girls seeing you talking with attractive girls builds attraction. I’m only 15 approaches into my 100 and I feel like I’m moving in the right direction. I just need to make sure I’m really pushing on interactions. I'm still not getting blow-outs which is really surprising. Maybe I'm selling myself short as far as game/ looks? I want to come back to this bar with some trendier clothes and really give it another go. Feedback welcome
Sunday 03/05
I’m hanging out in the smoking area of the rooftop bar, where a guy has just opened me about how I look like a guy that likes Neil Young. He seems cool so we talk music for a good amount of time.
Girl approaching me #1
Drunk half-Asian, cute 7, 18-20 opens the guy I’m talking to:
Her: Pointing towards me “Who is your friend here?”
Him: “This is Prof. Ligate”
Her: Puts hand out to shake my hand “Nice to meet you Prof. Ligate, I’m blah blah”
Me: “Hi there blah blah”
Her: “So what do you do Prof Ligate?”
Me: “I just hang out and play Xbox” Strong eye contact
Her: “Ahhh okay. You seem smart though. I’m really smart. I go to x+y prestigious university and study psychology. My boyfriend is a DJ here.”
Me: Thumbs up and sarcastic smile
Her: Starts talking with the other dude I was talking to. I exit interaction
At this point I’m a little concerned. I’ve forgotten that people start drinking on Sundays quite early and I’m nowhere near on the same level of intoxication. You can tell that a good amount of them have been into the oxy, some on coke. A look around the bar though and the quality of girls is quite good. A surplus of 7s and a smattering of 8s and 9s… but at the same time it is very cliquey and a lot of guys who are very well dressed and much more classically handsome than I am. If my goal with these 100 approaches is to improve quality then this is the place to do it.
I’m back at the smoking area where the guy who I was talking music before and his friends are still there. He offers me a cigarette.
Girl Approach Me #2
6, passing out drunk brunette 18-20, stumbles into me:
Her: “You’re really tall” hits her head on side-beam, almost falls over but holds onto me for support. Her friend comes over
Friend: “Come on blah blah we’re taking you home”
Other friend: “I can’t believe she was giving head to that guy in the bathroom before”
What the fuck. Next.
Approach #1
Tanned 6.5 brunette 20-22, waiting for service at the bar. I open:
Me: “That guy spilled beer down the side of my shirt. Look.”
Her: “Haha I saw. I think a few people have taken the Sunday beers a bit far…”
I ramble about the bar for a while… the pros and cons of the venue, music they are playing etc. Correctly guess that she is Canadian. I keep the banter nice and breezy and she seems kind of cool. She gets served first then waits for me to get my drink and then we walk from the bar. She tells me she has to go back to her friend but says she will ‘look out for me later on’. In a bar full of very attractive girls though, I’m kind of glad. Just getting warmed up.
I walk around the side of the bar where some college-bros are getting quite rowdy. They try to include me in their drinking game. I agree and say 1, 2, 3 go and the guy skulls his beer while I take a small sip of mine. I give him a wry smile before I see some girls sitting down looking very bored.
Approach #2
Very pretty 7.5 thin blonde, 18-19. I sit on an adjacent barstool above her and her slightly uglier friends. I open sarcastically:
Me: “Wow you guys look like you’re having a really wild night…”
Her: Smiling “I’ve just got off work… and my friends went out last night. We’re not going to be much fun tonight”
We talk about where she works, what she studies… looking back I went personal way too early. She is really sweet but a little quiet. There are a lot of pauses in our conversation but it’s not awkward. All up we talk for about 15 minutes and throughout she is asking personal questions. Feeling like I was wasting my time, I end the conversation and tell her I might catch up with her later on. I didn’t. She wasn’t really drinking much but I need to be number closing on these kind of girls if I’m not getting a SNL. Looking back it’s a little silly that I didn’t.
Approach #3
7.5 Blonde. 18. Would be a legit 9 if she lost maybe 10 pounds or so. She is sitting on a bar stool by herself while her uglier friend is talking to some model looking guy. I walk straight in front of her and open:
Me: “Wow could you look like you’re having a more terrible time?”
Her: Playing along, pouting “I want to go hoooome” Wry smile
We have a bit of back and forth, playful teasing etc. She complains how quickly the bar has died down. I rub her arm and suggest she should dance. She tells me she’s not in the mood and will watch me dance instead. I leave her for the dancefloor. And yes, I can confirm that I am a moron sometimes.
Approach #4
7 brunette 18-20, make eye contact on dancefloor. I open her with a “Hey there” and a wink and she’s receptive. Bullshit talk for a while, then five or so minutes later we’ve got our arms around each other. We grind. She says she’s going to get drinks with her friends and will be back.
I go back to the blonde (#3) on the bar stool. She asks if the brunette is my girlfriend. I tell her I have lots of friends here. She laughs and kind of bites her lip. I tell her to come dance and she says she would but her mother is picking her up soon (lol). I give her my phone and tell her to put her number in it. She blushes and giggles then does so. I go back to the dance floor. Should have kissed her
Approach #5
7 Half-Asian on the dancefloor 21-23. I open:
Me: “Wow you look like you’re having a ton of fun there”
Her: “Thanks haha I really am. I’m from x+y city just up here visiting for the weekend”
Bullshit talk for 5 or so minutes and then we are really getting into it. She backs up onto me then puts her hand down my jeans and gives me a tug for a while. Her friends tell her to come get drinks with them. “I’ll be back”.
The brunette from before (#4) sneaks up behind me on the dancefloor and gives me a hug. She says her friends are making her leave. I tell her she should stay. She says she really can’t she has class in the morning. I give her my phone. Number close.
I go to the bar for a drink, make a passing comment at a 7 brunette who is with another guy, I can’t remember exactly what I said but her jaw drops then playfully hits me. The guy says “She’s a little out of your league don’t you think mate”. I give the girl a wink and then I get opened by a girl.
Girl approach #3
19-21, tall blonde Russian-faced 8. We make heavy eye contact and then she opens:
Her: “I know you”
Me: Remembering where exactly I know her from “That’s right. X+y bar, I was pretty cooked that night.”
Her: “And we stayed at your friend’s apartment that one time and smoked crack in the bathroom” (This definitely did not happen. I’d also like to point out the amount of attractive young girls into hard drugs lately is absolutely ridiculous)
Me: Playing along “That was you?”
Her: “How drug fucked were you? Like you don’t remember.” She winks. She has me confused with someone else but we definitely have met at a bar before
Girl approach #4
18-20 tall Half-Asian 7, friends with last girl. She opens:
Her: “Fuck. You!”
Me: Rubbing her arm “Aw what did I do?”
Her: Gives me the finger. “When we were at your friends apartment, you stole all my shit. Fucking drug dealer piece of shit” Her friend is in laughter. Not sure if they are having me on or not. Weird that they would both have the same story about something I wasn’t involved in
I laugh it off and continue on to the smokers area.
Girl approach #5
Asian 7, 18-20, makes eye contact in the smoking area then opens with her short 7 brunette friend:
Her: “Oh my god it’s this guy”
Me: “I don’t think we’ve met” I rub her arm
Her: “What’s your name?”
Me: “I’m Prof. Ligate, and who are you?”
Her: “I’m blah blah. So what do you actually do Prof Ligate? You keep popping up everywhere” Starting to think I’m not exactly going under the radar. A little hard to do at 6’7 tall I guess
Me: “I just hang out”
Her: “Do you still live with your parents?”
Me: “No”
Her: “Do you deal drugs?” Her friend “Oh my god he’s a drug dealer”. I shrug. “You don’t look like you deal hard drugs though, just weed right?” Her friend “Do your parents know? What do your mom and dad think of you dealing drugs?” Jesus Christ.
Me: “It’s just my mom now”
Friend: “Oh… I’m so sorry.” I exit
Not sure what ‘angle’ I was working exactly playing the dead father card. I shoot myself in the foot way too often. I give no shits when I go out, but at the same time I have so little focus. I need to work on this. A little bit dumb that I need to remind myself “I’m out to get laid” over and over throughout the night, but writing this all out I can tell that that’s what it’s going to take.
I see the dfloor half-asian sitting down on a barstool in a group of friends and I go over. She asks me if she can have a piece of gum, and I say okay, as long as she shuffles over so I can have a seat. She does so, we chat for a bit. She introduces me to her friends. I tell her I need to go to the bathroom. I get up. On my way I see this really good looking guy spitting absolutely awful game to a girl (I forget what exactly, but some clichéd pickup line) then walking away to the bar. The girl and her friends awkwardly laugh.
Approach #6
Tall 8.5 brunette. Model looks. I grab her arm, deadpan expression, and deliver the exact same cheesy line the last guy said. She hits me playfully and her friend says “Oh my god is that guy for real?” I walk to the bathroom and come back to them:
Her: “Look who it is”
Me: “Did you miss me?”
Her: “Did you steal all my friend’s alcohol when she stayed at your friend’s apartment? Why would you do that?”
Me: “I honestly have never met that girl before in my life. I know your other friend from x+y bar”
Her: “Okay, I believe you”
Me: “Cool jacket” I feel the material. Playing around with it. Work my hand down to her waist.
Her: Sultry eye contact “It’s very expensive”
Interrupted. Security is rounding people up. “Bar is closed!” It’s only just after 1am. I had no idea shit closed so early on a Sunday.
I take the elevator down with the girl, her Russian looking friend and a couple of other friends they are with. “Okay we’re going, bye!” They dart off in a cab before I even had a chance to close. Fucking hell.
I see the 18 yo blonde from before (#3) sitting down with her friend. She introduces me to her friend. Chit chat for a bit and then she answers a phone call from her mom... then says she really has to leave. I kiss her on the forehead and then I call it a night.
Totals
15 Approaches
2 Numbers
1 Lay
So I’m definitely over my approach anxiety with hotter girls, but I just need to punch on through with taking girls home. I think I’m still used to sub-par girls throwing themselves at me rather than me putting in the work. On this night I’ve learned a few things: I’m fully comfortable with rolling solo... even rich girls are slutty… and approaching high-value girls only has benefits. Girls seeing you talking with attractive girls builds attraction. I’m only 15 approaches into my 100 and I feel like I’m moving in the right direction. I just need to make sure I’m really pushing on interactions. I'm still not getting blow-outs which is really surprising. Maybe I'm selling myself short as far as game/ looks? I want to come back to this bar with some trendier clothes and really give it another go. Feedback welcome
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