[Dalaran1991]

Fortis, I actually think its good that these women are nice enough to tell you they are not interested. Which COULD mean that you are being nice yourself. For me the girls just simply disappear and no contact again ever, because I too am very aggressive with them.

I had this happened only twice and both time I think I took way too long to escalate with her. Too long = more than one date.

Are you going with the first date bang mentality? IMO it really forces you to keep escalate until the girl says no or you bang her. At either point its no longer possible for her to give you that talk.

Its entirely possible that you may have a nice guy vibe, I know I used to do and even now it tend to rear its head.

One thing that gives me good results quickly is to dress more R-selected. It goes without saying to go to the gym and get that V-shape. Leather jackets are good. Get a cool necklace and maybe a bracelet. Good conversation starter and mark you out of the nice guy image.

You already know kino so I wont harp on there, but do you let your hands linger on their hand/leg, or touch their hair after enough escalation? It was one of the bigger game-changer for me in term of pushing sexual tension.

And what WIA said about connection.