[MaxPayne]

I had sex with a girl I knew previously after meeting up at a night out. She had a few drinks (more than me) during the night. However before sex we had not been drinking for about 2 hours. Many things she said during the act led me to believe she was cognizant and aware of what she was doing, if even by the time we were finished (about 2 hours). You can see where this is going..

About 10 hours later she texts me and tells me she can 'hardly remember' anything that happened the night before. I can translate that and don't bring anything up. (Although I find her amnesia almost impossible to believe; the fact that this was the first thing she said to me after the fact makes it obvious) But. Although we did use a condom, the condom was taken of after coitus and there was plenty of oral/handjobs/fingering/lying on each other afterwards. Just to be safe, I'd like to ask her to take a morning after pill. But from some small chitchat over txt we've had its clear she's not comfortable with what happened. She seemed a little withdrawn in our conversation.

How can I convey to her that I'm perfectly comfortable with what happened and that I'm not going to act any differently? I want to ask her to take the morning after pill but her behavior makes me afraid that she will 'misremember' the details of our night together. I know I should broach it with her but I'm looking for advice on how exactly to do so so that this doesn't turn into something more than it needs to be

[also posted on r/sex under throwaway]

[Blaze Frazier]

You want to ask her to take the morning after pill? Good luck. Might as well tell her you have AIDs.

[Spike]

(12-28-2011 12:44 AM)Blaze Frazier Wrote:  

You want to ask her to take the morning after pill? Good luck. Might as well tell her you have AIDs.

What kind of nonsense reaction is that ?

Pregnancy and aids have nothing to do with each other.

[esperar]

Be careful, she could accuse you of rape.

[Mikev75]

Danger!!!
One of the uses of the MAP is for after rapes. Various tv programs show women going to the ER for the MAP post rape. Let me be clear, what you've described is NOT rape. By mentioning it to her though, you might plant the idea in her head. I think she remembers everything or at least more than she admits, but she's trying to create a version of events where she is less "slutty." be very careful. Stop sending texts and emails. These could be used against you later. Talk to her in person only. Were there any problems with the condom? How long ago was the sex? Google it, but the time window is closing...weigh the risks of possible pregnancy vs. False rape accusations.

[Parlay44]

Watch what you say on the phone and over text. You should be in damage control mode now. Careful.

Let it cool off for a few weeks.

[scotian]

(12-28-2011 12:14 AM)MaxPayne Wrote:  

I had sex with a girl I knew previously after meeting up at a night out. She had a few drinks (more than me) during the night. However before sex we had not been drinking for about 2 hours. Many things she said during the act led me to believe she was cognizant and aware of what she was doing, if even by the time we were finished (about 2 hours). You can see where this is going..

About 10 hours later she texts me and tells me she can 'hardly remember' anything that happened the night before. I can translate that and don't bring anything up. (Although I find her amnesia almost impossible to believe; the fact that this was the first thing she said to me after the fact makes it obvious) But. Although we did use a condom, the condom was taken of after coitus and there was plenty of oral/handjobs/fingering/lying on each other afterwards. Just to be safe, I'd like to ask her to take a morning after pill. But from some small chitchat over txt we've had its clear she's not comfortable with what happened. She seemed a little withdrawn in our conversation.

How can I convey to her that I'm perfectly comfortable with what happened and that I'm not going to act any differently? I want to ask her to take the morning after pill but her behavior makes me afraid that she will 'misremember' the details of our night together. I know I should broach it with her but I'm looking for advice on how exactly to do so so that this doesn't turn into something more than it needs to be

[also posted on r/sex under throwaway]

This is a border line newbie forum post, congrats on the notch but hell, you better get used to these situations! If you plan on banging lots of hoochies in the future, get used to it, sounds like a typical weekend to me!

Of course she's not comfortable and is withdrawn, she just got wasted and fucked some dude she barely knew, she feels like a skank, which she is (God bless her)!!! I don't know about other more experienced gamers, but I would just ignore her, If she's acting like she can't remember, great!

Unless the condom broke, why would you want her to take the morning after pill? For future reference, if the possibility of sperm leaking or busting outta the condom is too much for you, PULL OUT and blow it on her face, ass, tits, or my personal favorite, in her hair!

Forget that little cum dumpster and move on to the next one!

[Roosh]

Lots of fearmongering here. False rape? Get a grip.

Who cares what she's doing. Ignore her and find another girl. No need to indulge her childish tantrum. Ironically, trying to make her feel better will make it worse.

[scotian]

I thought some more about this, dude you have the upper hand here! As some other posters have said in the past, before you nail her, she has the power, post-boning, you are in charge, now act like it!

You have just done what this whole game thing is all about, congrats. You busted a nut and got a nice ego boost, see how easy it was, all you had to do was get drunk with this chick and you ended up shagging her.

LEAVE IT AT THAT, move on to the next one, remember, you gotta slay a few dragons before you get your princess.

I've seen this happen before (it kinda happened to me too), you bone a chick you just met, she seems cool and you think "maybe we could start something, like a relationship, I better be nice to her, she could be the one, you never know". FUCK THAT, never, ever ever start a relationship with a one night stand, unless its strictly FWB and sounds like your game isn't at a level where you could handle that deal. Who knows who she fucked the night before? She could have fucked the entire football team for all you know!

Like I said in the last post, well done, now move on, she's probably gonna suck some guy off in a bathroom stall tonite anyway, she's a skank.....like Scarface of the Geto Boys said "you gotta let a ho be a ho"...let her go!

PS: good job using a condom, never fuck a skank like that without one!

[soup]

Players remorse? Hit the next button. If something isn't working out for me, I let it go. Life is too short.

You can also organize your life so that future girls will want to fuck you, but not want to have your kids. One way is to not get close to them or let them know too much about your life (especially if you are earning a lot of money). Just attract them enough to get what you want. Let them come to know you as the guy that will give them a good fuck, not "relationship material."

[MiXX]

(12-28-2011 09:49 AM)Roosh Wrote:  

Lots of fearmongering here. False rape? Get a grip.

Who care what she's doing. Ignore her and find another girl. No need to indulge her childish tantrum. Ironically, trying to make her feel better will make it worse.

Agree with Roosh, best thing to do is ignore her, just be sure to save some of her texts on your phone for a few months just in case.

Move on, buyers remorse is common, and trying to "console" her is just showing guilt. She agreed to it, you did not rape her, move on!

Mixx

[ersatz]

The morning after pill makes girls sick and costs at least $50 usually. It isn't something you take or suggest casually.

[MiXX]

(12-28-2011 12:36 PM)ersatz Wrote:  

The morning after pill makes girls sick and costs at least $50 usually. It isn't something you take or suggest casually.

Or put in her eggs for breakfast the next morning like your boy Mixx has done =)


Mixx

[MaxPayne]

Thanks for all the advice guys. I don't give a fuck about her in terms of a relationship or anything like that. The fact that she's a total skank.. you'll have to trust me on that. (She begged me to call up my boy I had introduced her to for 5 secs while she was on top of me so that we could gangfuck her, among other eyebrow raisers).

But in general are there any techniques/principles one can use to decrease flaking after the bang? It wasn't a ONS in the sense that we had known each other for about 2 months prior (mutual hobby), there was flirting and mutual interest.. nothing came of that at the time due to logistics. So this wasn't exactly a random hookup with a stranger.

This weekend we both happened to be in a party city. We attend the same institution and will likely see each other on the regular. I wouldn't mind banging her on the side (again, I have no illusions or feelings about her) and if not then that's fine too. It just strikes me that there's not much literature or advice out there on how to keep a chick in tow after sex so she doesn't have this kind of remorse. Just some advice I can keep in mind for future lays.

I let her rest her head on me for about 30 secs and then I drove her back and told her more or less to gtfo. Too harsh?

[ersatz]

(12-28-2011 03:47 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(12-28-2011 12:36 PM)ersatz Wrote:  

The morning after pill makes girls sick and costs at least $50 usually. It isn't something you take or suggest casually.

Or put in her eggs for breakfast the next morning like your boy Mixx has done =)


Mixx

It's shit like that is why it took some convincing to get the pharmacist to sell me plan B for my then girlfriend a year or two ago. Behaving like that leads to one sided regulations in the future. There were some asshole dead beat dads in the past that lead to emotionally justifying the current child support laws.