Music to seduce and music to bang to are very different.
If you've seen the film "10" with Bo Derek (recommeneded), then you know for fucking you can't beat some classical music, like Ravel's Bolero.
For seduction, something mellow like R&B is best but also Rock ballads. several of these are from the 70s but they'll do the trick.
Eagles I can't tell you why
Ambrosia - how much I feel
Bobby Caldwell - what you won't do for love
Gino Vanelli - I just want to stop
10cc - im not in love
Player - baby come back
Sade - anything
Janet Jackson, Anytime anyplace
Todd Rundgren Hello its me
Simply Red - holding back the years
Doobie brothers - what a fool beleives
Michael Mcdonald - I keep forgetting
Janet Jackson - Antime Anyplace
Sade - sweetest taboo, Is it a crime
Anita baker - rapture albun
Clapton - wonderful tonight
Bonny Rait - I can't make you love me
Wham Careless whisper