This might not be anything new for some of you, but I feel like sharing some recent events that happened with me and this cute 20 years old 10/10 I met not long ago (she is 9 months older than me).
Before anything, have in mind that I'm still in college as a freshman and I won't have a job until next semester, so I'm nothing special in terms of social value except that I'm well connected and have a strong inner game for most of the time.
Now to the story. I met this chick through facebook, at first I thought that she was cute and nice because we have the same tastes in absolute everything. But I didn't let these feelings get over my head (have to thank you guys for that and all the info on this forum and some books).
Here is the annoying part, I usually talk about commom stuff with chicks through facebook, after a few texts I procede to get her number and invite her out through whatsapp, this usually works except on this chick because she just broke up with her boyfriend and wanted to talk more before meeting (red flag, I know, but she gave me her number at least).
Usually I would have let her go but I really wanted this notch, and she had the potencial to become a future girlfriend (Stupid oneitis getting in the way so soon), so I played her game, specially because I have this childhood friend who always plays slow with girls he meets through facebook, he usally gets girlfriends just doing that, so he told me to wait a little and to be patient. This kept going on for 2 weeks, if you guys have some girlfriends on facebook, some who are into you and some who are not, with time you become able to tell if she is being friendly or if she really likes you, I had my doubts but they were obliterated after she started to drop some innuendos about us dating and said without any problem how much she liked me and wanted us to meet.
Up to this saturday, after these bothersome 2 weeks, she called me for a date. Now have in mind would you that I had called her 3 times up to this point and she refused 1 and went deadly silent on the other 2. Usually she would appear 1 day after saying that she still wanted to meet, I could sense her love for me in the phone calls she always made, and when I hang up on her so soon or didn't pick up at all she would go Berserker on me, so I just told her to ask me out when she felt ready.
So finally the night arrived, I was just about to get ready to go (just finished my shower) and she texts ''change of plans''. Before I continue you guys need to understand I grow up with a lot of insecurities because I have hyperhidrosis, these insecurities had been dormant up to this point but I accidently let it slip... AND IT COSTED
She was into me because I kept a good frame with her, being playing and everything but after she dropped that bullshit I didn't even gave her time to explain, I just exploded her with some really stupid texts and it's needles to say she lost all attraction she had. After a few days she comes back talking to me for some reason, I thought this was a lost cause but she came back, turns out she really liked me but things haven't being the same, now she just doesn't want me again and the worst part is that she was DTF, she has this pale skin, fine thin waist with nice face, huge ass and big breasts and a long black hair (half japanese and half european).
I told her yesterday that if she wanted to leave my life, I wouldn't stop her, and if she came back, she better come with her mind set. (I kinda said this with hopes that she wouldn't perceive me as a needy person like I showed saturday and would come back to me eventually, but the right mindset is to do it really meaning it, without any hopes up, but you guys know how oneitis are).
I hope you guys can feel my pain through this so I'm just gonna go to the point.
NEVER allow your insecurities to take the best of you
Specially before you make out or hook up with her (I bet that if I had banged her before showing this pathetic side of me the situation would have been different).
Remember this: If you are secure, you have a chance of banging and a chance of not banging. Now if you show your insecurities, you simply won't get laid at all.
I hope you guys can take something out of it, that's it.
PS: I great way to build attraction online, at least with these girls that want to know you better is through teasing, It works like a charm!
Nobody is innocent, there are merely varying levels of guilt.