[HankMoody]

Question...

Normally I follow the RooshV method of texting. Everything is logistical, very short, lowercase, and there is zero banter. I might send a picture here and there if I'm doing something interesting. But for the most part, I don't have the time to exchange banter with vapid women. We'll talk in person, or not at all.

I also don't want a woman someday complaining that I sexually harassed her or did something inappropriate, because my career is somewhat high profile, and I find myself in the news from time to time (not a humblebrag - I'd rather not be, media attention fucking sucks). I definitely do not want a woman complaining to the state bar association, which is comprised of all SJWs. So, I just avoid it altogether, even if they get sexual with me.

In any event, last month a plate "dumped" me. The usual "this is going nowhere", "you're emotionally unavailable", "you don't have time for me" yadda yadda. I was basically too busy with work stuff in October, November, and December to focus on anything else and ghosted her. I didn't even mean to, really, I was just that busy.

Randomly, I had a few drinks and was like "come over and lets have sex all night."

Oddly enough, it worked. She came over and we had sex all night. This is one of the few times I've ever used anything remotely sexual in text messaging.

My question to you guys is this - do you get sexual in texting?

I never do, but I'm wondering if I should more often...

[questor70]

What happened after that one booty-call? I take it she went home the next morning fully satisfied, then back to radio silence?

[torridon747]

I turn the conversation sexual whenever I get a chance. I'd say it's better than not. If it's a girl I've already banged and the sex was good I have sent stuff like you did to that girl and for the most part it works but I still think it's better to have some plausible deniability and keep it classy with only the implication of sex. Either that or go all the way with stuff like "daddy wants to bend you over the counter and have his way with you" dirty talk typeshit.

[Hypno]

Yes and no.

Yes, sexualize text conversations. "What kind of lingerie do you think I would enjoy seeing you in?" People are more comfortable accelerating things from behind a keyboard or phone, so you can progress further. Also, you avoid the "dinner and a movie" category and plant yourself firmly in the sex category.

But I avoid sexting. It can give women validation in and of itself and make actually meeting you redundant.

[Deuce Anna Half]

I sexualize text conversations early on to establish "yeah, I'm not just here for a polite conversation". I usually start off with innuendos and flirty, suggestive shit, gauge her receptiveness, and build from there.

It's also a great way to build anticipation and excitement for when you do bang. Do it right, and she'll be ready to fuck on sight.

[heavy]

The thread title is a bit different than your text "come over and lets have sex all night". I wouldn't call that talking about sex.

But yes, I do when I'm horny. No need to beat around the Demi Moore bush. Even if it doesn't work, you're being brutally honest with her, and I find women are fine with that.

Just make sure it's not a chick who will use it against you. That would be the only reason not to.

[Fortis]

Never works for me, so I don't do it. I find indirect game to usually be the best way.

[HankMoody]

(01-02-2018 10:27 AM)questor70 Wrote:  

What happened after that one booty-call? I take it she went home the next morning fully satisfied, then back to radio silence?

She actually spent three days at my house over the holiday. Made me breakfast and also went to the liquor store.

Bonus: has a "boyfriend"

[questor70]

(01-02-2018 12:04 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Bonus: has a "boyfriend"

And THAT is a reminder that it really is 2018.

[kaotic]

Depends - if she's a plate and we bang often sure, I'll bring up sexual jokes - or talk about the sex we had last night.

For the most part I let girls initiate that convo - as in talking about lingerie she wants to buy for me, that i did a "good job" last night.

I don't let what chicks send me to get me thirsty.

A few examples, a girl send me pics of garters with hearts in them, say they were cute, and said she probably has some outfits to go with it, she confirmed, said "interesting" and moved on.

Another girl said she was done shopping, dropped that she was at victoria secrets and barnes and noble - asked what she got dropped a line saying she got some "things" that if I was lucky enought I'd eventually see. Told her I make my own luck and moved on.

If I'm super horny and I know a girl is a dtf plate - i drop a specific small text describing what I want to do with her - it's worked every time and always gets the girl super horny. The sex is always great that night.

[HankMoody]

(01-02-2018 03:32 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Depends - if she's a plate and we bang often sure, I'll bring up sexual jokes - or talk about the sex we had last night.

For the most part I let girls initiate that convo - as in talking about lingerie she wants to buy for me, that i did a "good job" last night.

I don't let what chicks send me to get me thirsty.

A few examples, a girl send me pics of garters with hearts in them, say they were cute, and said she probably has some outfits to go with it, she confirmed, said "interesting" and moved on.

Another girl said she was done shopping, dropped that she was at victoria secrets and barnes and noble - asked what she got dropped a line saying she got some "things" that if I was lucky enought I'd eventually see. Told her I make my own luck and moved on.

If I'm super horny and I know a girl is a dtf plate - i drop a specific small text describing what I want to do with her - it's worked every time and always gets the girl super horny. The sex is always great that night.

Whenever they send me lingerie pics, I just tell them it will look good on my floor.

[TheFinalEpic]

This is one thing that I've pondered for a while. There are definitely two camps of men, the "just send her a dick pic" camp, completely all about the sexting, and the other camp that is totally against making sexual advances on a phone.

I think that sexualizing texts is pretty easy without blatantly making it "sexual". Make innuendos, and leave the interpretation to her. However she interprets it, that is where you are likely to go with her, and if she likes you and wants to fuck you, she will jump on the innuendos like nobodies business. I've tried both, and enjoy both ways of going about this. Getting pics from a girl and not replying for 20 minutes after she sends them makes her super insecure, which is good.

One thing i've noticed is that you get past this phase if you get into a relationship. Not sure if anyone else has experienced this, but it's been my personal experience.

[xxx]

(01-02-2018 10:10 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  

In any event, last month a plate "dumped" me. The usual "this is going nowhere", "you're emotionally unavailable", "you don't have time for me" yadda yadda.

That's a shit test. Women most of the time don't actually mean it and want you to keep treating them like shit.

If they cry even better.

I think the logic is she starts to lose respect for you and wants to make you into a provider -- you need to reinforce that you're not that type of guy by doing something bad to her. I love making them weep, the more they do it the better I feel.

[treypound]

(01-02-2018 10:59 AM)Fortis Wrote:  

Never works for me, so I don't do it. I find indirect game to usually be the best way.

This.

[DonnyGately]

(01-02-2018 10:10 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  

Randomly, I had a few drinks and was like "come over and lets have sex all night."

Oddly enough, it worked. She came over and we had sex all night. This is one of the few times I've ever used anything remotely sexual in text messaging.

My question to you guys is this - do you get sexual in texting?

I never do, but I'm wondering if I should more often...

Sure, depending on how the conversation has gone - I generally do the same as you but if they're being flirty and friendly and sending pics I will definitely start making comments, telling them how they look and what I like and what they should wear to the meet, etc. Girls will often tell you what they want while texting that they may be too shy to express to your face, esp if younger.

But if she's fine with short, when/where texts I go with that.

For restarts I'm much more likely to go direct sexual vibe. Ask them if they miss my spankings, that sort of thing.

[Mr. D]

Only if sex was involved earlier (i.e. I banged her), or she likes to talk about it.