Quote: (09-09-2017 08:07 AM)PepeLePew Wrote:
Quote: (09-09-2017 05:30 AM)jabba Wrote:
OP - Hold on...Your post has a lot of negativity. Do you daygame? Are you extraverted? What do you do all day? The fact you even referenced the local masculined females indicates you don't understand how to capitalize on this city. That's like me telling a friend about all the roadkill I drove by on the side of the road. Sure, the carnage is there. Why even bring it up? That just fucks up the mood.
Perhaps, we're opposite styles. You seem like you want LTR. I'm OK with high turnover.
As others mentioned, the bevy of tourists and students creates a bubbly social cocktail. You need to have energy and charisma to see this city's upside.
I visited there for the first time last month and had fun. I would definitely return. Barcelona is an intl hub, which attracts girls from EE, Scandinavia, etc... Instead of traveling to 5 different countries, I know I can meet some intl girl walking around, know some trivial historical / cultural fact about her country and build momentum. I travel / go out solo. My mindset: I'm accountable for my happiness and success in life. I have to make things happen.
In hindset, my Barcelona stop gave me the positive momentum and mindset to close chicks in my following cities. I was able to approach, banter, flirt, and close during the day or walking in the evening.
The advantage is that those chicks are just visiting or studying, so they're open to meeting a charismatic guy. Fyi, I'm not Spanish, was there for a few days nor do I speak the language. However, I soon became a tour guide to the girls I met (with Google maps). To local guys, they would see a tourist guy leading a tourist girl. I was confident and knew how to keep a conversation going...forever. I can talk a lot.
The only thing I have is the ability to talk about a variety of topics with cute female strangers. I'm perfectly fine with rejections. I daygamed non-Spanish / tourists girls, and it was one of the best cities I've visited. I tried the Tom Torero street approach just like the ones on YouTube and had some success with it. I went to W Hotel / Eclipse with many hot intl chicas. I made out with a Russian med student more than half my age.
I would even study Spanish in Barcelona just to meet non-local girls and work my day job. Daygame is my main source for building my funnel and yields the best ROI (time & effort) for closing younger, hotter girls.
I reckon being in a classroom and sharing my opinions in Spanish would lead to a variety of side adventures. Btw, I only know "hola," and I don't have time to read a textbook or do homework. I will learn only from practicing in the street and over coffee. I will need a lot of extra help from my classmates.
If the professor says: You will fail my class if you don't study.
My reply: I have an MBA and have a good job. Your classroom is an intl cafe which allows me to flirt with girls from all over the world. I'm here to practise more than Spanish.
This was my Barcelona experience.
I dont day game much here, for the reasons stated above. I've had a lot of success and I've dated several language school students. But that was in Germany. Dated an amazing 18 year old Russian girl who was there for three weeks studying the language, but then she left back to Russia and I never really heard or saw from her again which I was a little disappointed about.
I've also dated an 18 year old i met here who was one of those girls outside of restaurants trying to get customers, but she was boring as hell and literally had nothing to say. And I've dated some others, especially chicks ive met at meetups. Again usually all boring has hell. With nothing to say.
Getting laid is no problem, but its the quality that is lacking. I've met a few girls in their late twenties that have wanted to bang (some being quite open about it) but i just kept rejecting them and making excuses why I couldnt. I'm just not into washed up late-20-30-somethings. To me at least, banging a different transient chick every couple of weeks gets old fast. And as one of the posters posed, the years of suntanning, makes a lot of them look MUCH older than they really are. He mentioned that there are a lot of 30 year olds looking like 50 year olds and thats spot on. I'm not necessarily looking for a girlfriend but I DO like girlfriend quality girls and would like to have that as an option if I liked the girl.
I did the spanish classes thing to. In my class where 3 guys, one of them who was with his mom and dad, myself, two fat girls, one of whom had a mustache (i shit you not) and one decent chick with a boyfriend. Disappointing to say the least.
I am not really here with a purpose. I am just here because I liked the weather and thought barcelona was awesome, and it is from an aesthetic point of view. I work remotely in sales for a global software company. And have a side gig importing classical cars to the US that I source from all over the world. I literally have a 3 hour work week. So I can live anywhere, and take long extended trips to any countries i like. But to me dating and banging nothing but transient tourists who are here for a couple of weeks and then go back home gets boring and tiring rather quickly man.
I dont think dutch girls are manly at all. And, like I said there are a lot of choices with dutch girls. Ive met cute dutch girls just from randomly chatting girls at mcdonalds, or on the street (in netherlands). And they are friendlier and warmer than catalan girls. Everytime I go there my head is spinning every which way with every other girl being good looking, thin, and not tatted up like a slag, and dressed stylishly.
Good you have your financial / professional area handled.
You answered your own questions and have input from members who have been there.
Your execution is off or you're burned out living there. With street approaches, you see exactly what she looks like. I never do online, because it doesn't work for me anymore. I need to be on the ground, analog style. You don't have to approach the leatherfaces who ruined their skin for life. Meeting tourist girls implies high turnover and more volitility. If you want meaningful LTRs, try a steady business city with a low P/E ratio.
I liked BCN, because it's a European hub city, bustling with people, e.g. London, Paris, Rome. I've had good experiences with Spaniards with daily life, e.g. supermarket, buses, metro, taxi, restaurant, bars... I never got the arrogant vibe as I felt with the French (Paris) or British (London). I've traveled to other Spanish cities where intl people flock. Spanish girls aren't my target, and many aren't my type. I rarely approach them, yet they were friendly and sincere.
Why did you choose that language school? With proper research, you could find language schools who target a younger, female demographic or take some humanity / art courses at the university. I posit the quality good and energy is fun. My interest with Spain and learning Spanish is attributed to the access of to young, hot, intl tourist girls. I've traveled all over Europe for many years and always avoided Spain, because I wasn't attracted to the girls. I will be the first to admit that my strategy was wrong.
Selecting BCN as a homebase seemed plausible from a climate and aesthetic perspective. Perhaps, it's time to look for another city. You rode this wave to shore, and it's better to leave before your negativity manifests itself into other parts of your life.
Surely, I would have different opinions of Spain if I lived there. I have bases in other cities, and I visit Spain to recharge my batteries and have fun. When I'm there, I stay in my world, protect my vibe and don't get too close the locals. I intentionally stay a couple layers away from them. I don't want to know about all their hardships. I'm in then I'm out. I keep it light, tight and the good memories intact.
This is why I always try to surround myself around positive people, avoid negative people and OK to be solo. Ultimately, we become our environment.
