First of all, I'd like to thank everyone who took the time to comment and share their opinion regarding my situation. I read everything carefully and will re-read to reflect on everything with an open mind. My post was pretty long. It is obviously difficult to summarize briefly and accurately four and half year of relationship and its dynamics. The fact that my native language isn't english also complicates the writing. I initially included some background information in my original post to help people assess the current situation in a more enlighted way but deleted it when I saw how long the post was. Since the story elicits interest judging from the replies and personal messages, I will post the paragraph back below. Later tonight I will post an update and answer some interrogations from the posters.
Background information: 30 year old, black (1/4 white, so I look a little bit mixed), I lift, 6'2, 195 pounds, broad shoulders, low body fat percentage, prestigious but demanding career. I'm lucky because I'm good-looking and have it relatively easy with women (at least initially to get sex quickly... LTR being another different ballgame...) . I had my first LTMR from 20 to 23 y.o with an attractive young white french-canadian woman of my age, a college student from a good family (I guess we could rate her a 7). We never lived together. The sex was super great. We both had a strong libido. She never denied sex and often initiated. She was experienced and could achieve vaginal orgasms regularly but not clitoridal ones. She didn't want me to perform oral sex on her and even if I wanted to try at least once, she never let me, go figure... she said that it turned her off... She only liked actual sex and fingering. Rough sex, limited foreplay, a lot of doggy style. She was a great dirty talker. I was very dominant with her and she loved it. A dream... Especially when I think about it now... What a huge difference with my current girlfriend on the sexual level... She also was into rape fantasies. I had to buy a durag, phat farm baggy jeans and get a fake gold necklace because she had a ''raped by a black thug fantasy'' and we would create scenarios... During the last year of our relationship, the poor girl developed a neurological disease and we decided to end the relationship... Quickly after the first relationship, from 23 to 24 y.o, for one year, I dated a 19 y.o tall french-canadian blond of astonishing beauty (a 9). I'll always remember how I felt the first time she was nude infront of me... her body was so hot... The sex was okay at best even though she had a couple of relationships before... Completely at the opposite of my first girlfriend, she could achieved clitoridal orgasm easily from oral sex and digital stimulation, but not vaginal ones. She really adored oral sex in contrast to my first girlfriend. She dumped after one year of dating and started to go out with a professional athlete. She denied sex only once, a few weeks before leaving me. She blew up and said that she never really enjoyed vaginal penetration, that she felt nothing, couldn't have vaginal orgasms, was tired of me always wanting sex like ''an animal'', etc. She didn't want do to it doggy-style because she felt like an ''animal''. I could only managed to get her do it a couple of times during a year. After that, for about one year and a half, I had my fair share of ONS, experienced simultaneous short term dating and was having fun. Those were mainly from cold approach night-game and social circle/university. This is the moment I realize I was good-looking and was lucky to have it easy, because strangely up to 25 y.o I didn't really get that. While I was really enjoying all that, I prefer long-term relationships so I was always ultimately looking for an amazing and beautiful woman during that period. I learned, to my own surprise, that women can be much more promiscuous than what I thought growing up. It struck me how some small women would go have sex quickly with some random black guy they'd just met a university party, a bar or nightclub. I also realized how the sexuality of a woman could vary widely. Whereas I encountered a few (very few) women who could for example squirt like fountains during vaginal orgasm after 3 minutes of sexual intercourse while screaming their lungs out, others, at the opposite extreme, would seem to derive minimal physical pleasure from the actual sex. Others would seem to respond more from scenarios, speech, than physical stimulation. Before entering my current relationship, my personal view on masculine sexual ability was that, while he must take charge, dominate and lead, a great lover wanting to please his partner must nonetheless be attentive to her preferences since their response to different ways of having sex vary so greatly.
I started to read a bit on the manosphere and red-pill stuff recently, but I'm still not well-versed in that.
Update to come later.
Background information: 30 year old, black (1/4 white, so I look a little bit mixed), I lift, 6'2, 195 pounds, broad shoulders, low body fat percentage, prestigious but demanding career. I'm lucky because I'm good-looking and have it relatively easy with women (at least initially to get sex quickly... LTR being another different ballgame...) . I had my first LTMR from 20 to 23 y.o with an attractive young white french-canadian woman of my age, a college student from a good family (I guess we could rate her a 7). We never lived together. The sex was super great. We both had a strong libido. She never denied sex and often initiated. She was experienced and could achieve vaginal orgasms regularly but not clitoridal ones. She didn't want me to perform oral sex on her and even if I wanted to try at least once, she never let me, go figure... she said that it turned her off... She only liked actual sex and fingering. Rough sex, limited foreplay, a lot of doggy style. She was a great dirty talker. I was very dominant with her and she loved it. A dream... Especially when I think about it now... What a huge difference with my current girlfriend on the sexual level... She also was into rape fantasies. I had to buy a durag, phat farm baggy jeans and get a fake gold necklace because she had a ''raped by a black thug fantasy'' and we would create scenarios... During the last year of our relationship, the poor girl developed a neurological disease and we decided to end the relationship... Quickly after the first relationship, from 23 to 24 y.o, for one year, I dated a 19 y.o tall french-canadian blond of astonishing beauty (a 9). I'll always remember how I felt the first time she was nude infront of me... her body was so hot... The sex was okay at best even though she had a couple of relationships before... Completely at the opposite of my first girlfriend, she could achieved clitoridal orgasm easily from oral sex and digital stimulation, but not vaginal ones. She really adored oral sex in contrast to my first girlfriend. She dumped after one year of dating and started to go out with a professional athlete. She denied sex only once, a few weeks before leaving me. She blew up and said that she never really enjoyed vaginal penetration, that she felt nothing, couldn't have vaginal orgasms, was tired of me always wanting sex like ''an animal'', etc. She didn't want do to it doggy-style because she felt like an ''animal''. I could only managed to get her do it a couple of times during a year. After that, for about one year and a half, I had my fair share of ONS, experienced simultaneous short term dating and was having fun. Those were mainly from cold approach night-game and social circle/university. This is the moment I realize I was good-looking and was lucky to have it easy, because strangely up to 25 y.o I didn't really get that. While I was really enjoying all that, I prefer long-term relationships so I was always ultimately looking for an amazing and beautiful woman during that period. I learned, to my own surprise, that women can be much more promiscuous than what I thought growing up. It struck me how some small women would go have sex quickly with some random black guy they'd just met a university party, a bar or nightclub. I also realized how the sexuality of a woman could vary widely. Whereas I encountered a few (very few) women who could for example squirt like fountains during vaginal orgasm after 3 minutes of sexual intercourse while screaming their lungs out, others, at the opposite extreme, would seem to derive minimal physical pleasure from the actual sex. Others would seem to respond more from scenarios, speech, than physical stimulation. Before entering my current relationship, my personal view on masculine sexual ability was that, while he must take charge, dominate and lead, a great lover wanting to please his partner must nonetheless be attentive to her preferences since their response to different ways of having sex vary so greatly.
I started to read a bit on the manosphere and red-pill stuff recently, but I'm still not well-versed in that.
Update to come later.