Rather than having a dedicated thread about every dating app or going off-topic on the Tinder, Bumble, or OK Cupid threads I thought it would make sense to have a catch-all thread for all the other dating apps out there.
I recently burnt out using the main ones and started experimenting with the next rung down, which are apps that seem to be rapidly picking up members or have a lot of members but are also-rans for one reason or another.
The only three I have on my phone currently are Coffee Meets Bagel, Sapio (which is a mobile-only OK Cupid sort of clone) and Badoo.
My results so far:
Sapio:
My opinion so far is that Sapio hasn't hit critical mass yet, seems to be popular only in some metropolitan regions (not Boston) so it's irrelevant to me. It winds up connecting me with people who are 500+ miles away even though I put in range filters which is annoying.
Coffee Meets Bagel
It is similar to Bumble in some respects as far as being less of a meat-market than Tinder but it doesn't tie men's hands behind their backs the way Bumble does. It's far easier to get to the chat stage. I met two women through it but neither of them worked out, but I'm gonna leave it on my phone. You just have to be patient with it.
The way you are sent a artificially limited batch of matches each day is actually a good thing. Assuming that's how it does it for both men and women it is a GOOD thing as it should prevent women from being inundated with matches. You're also given a limited window of time to evaluate the matches and they scroll off. So it really encourages women to give their matches a shot to prove their worth rather than just swiping right on the top 20% within a radius in one fell swoop and ignoring the rest.
Match.com does something similar in having your matches for the day. The difference with that approach is you can always go and manually search through all the women at once. You can't do that with CmB.
Badoo
Badoo is sort of the roadhouse of dating sites. It's very blue-collar and is filled with lots of first-generation immigrants, most of them Brazilian although some are also from Russia too. The app used to be crap but these days it is a pretty straight Tinder clone for the most part. It's a hangout for women who might be too technically ignorant to know that there are other dating apps out there. You just aren't going to see the type of chicks you will on a Bumble or CmB. On the upside, the hot ones seem more DTF in their pictures than just about any other site. Lots of pics with women rolling around on their bed or pointing their ass for the camera. Unfortunately, women who pose this way tend to be butterfaces.
I managed to get a telephone number of a blonde Brazilian immigrant who works as a high-priced maid Friday night who then proceeded to stiff me on a dinner date tonight and give me an excuse that she didn't see my text while she was talking to her family. Not going to micro-analyze that in this thread but overall I'm operating under the assumption that there aren't many clean-cut upper-middle-class professionals on Badoo, so for some women it might skew the odds in my favor, albeit triggering some beta-bux impulses.
The Problem of User Overlap
The problem with the top apps is you wind up seeing the same faces again and again. That's what it began to feel like being on the main ones. Once everyone has all these apps it may as well just be one single app so you're spinning your wheels seeing the same images as you go from app to app. I think with Badoo and CmB there's a lot less overlap so there's reason to give it a shot to cast a wider net.
Trying brand new apps
I briefly tried an app called Jaomo. It's really close to a scam in most respects in how it gives you a taste and then starts locking things down and lots of profiles seem fake. However, I did manage to meet a woman through it. My opinion is that when a dating site is brand new there is a "desert island" effect where there are a sea of fake profiles but if you can prove you're real, you have a temporary advantage. Like the throttling that CmB does, it forces women to pay more attention to you than if they could just scan through pretty much every single guy in a 50 mile radius for the juicy 20%. Of course, the types of women likely to fire up some random oddball app are probably not cream of the crop. In this case she was hot but most likely autistic (an unusual combination to be sure) and that's not a recipe for physicality.
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I'd like to please hear other reports from the field to either confirm or challenge my findings.
I recently burnt out using the main ones and started experimenting with the next rung down, which are apps that seem to be rapidly picking up members or have a lot of members but are also-rans for one reason or another.
The only three I have on my phone currently are Coffee Meets Bagel, Sapio (which is a mobile-only OK Cupid sort of clone) and Badoo.
My results so far:
Sapio:
My opinion so far is that Sapio hasn't hit critical mass yet, seems to be popular only in some metropolitan regions (not Boston) so it's irrelevant to me. It winds up connecting me with people who are 500+ miles away even though I put in range filters which is annoying.
Coffee Meets Bagel
It is similar to Bumble in some respects as far as being less of a meat-market than Tinder but it doesn't tie men's hands behind their backs the way Bumble does. It's far easier to get to the chat stage. I met two women through it but neither of them worked out, but I'm gonna leave it on my phone. You just have to be patient with it.
The way you are sent a artificially limited batch of matches each day is actually a good thing. Assuming that's how it does it for both men and women it is a GOOD thing as it should prevent women from being inundated with matches. You're also given a limited window of time to evaluate the matches and they scroll off. So it really encourages women to give their matches a shot to prove their worth rather than just swiping right on the top 20% within a radius in one fell swoop and ignoring the rest.
Match.com does something similar in having your matches for the day. The difference with that approach is you can always go and manually search through all the women at once. You can't do that with CmB.
Badoo
Badoo is sort of the roadhouse of dating sites. It's very blue-collar and is filled with lots of first-generation immigrants, most of them Brazilian although some are also from Russia too. The app used to be crap but these days it is a pretty straight Tinder clone for the most part. It's a hangout for women who might be too technically ignorant to know that there are other dating apps out there. You just aren't going to see the type of chicks you will on a Bumble or CmB. On the upside, the hot ones seem more DTF in their pictures than just about any other site. Lots of pics with women rolling around on their bed or pointing their ass for the camera. Unfortunately, women who pose this way tend to be butterfaces.
I managed to get a telephone number of a blonde Brazilian immigrant who works as a high-priced maid Friday night who then proceeded to stiff me on a dinner date tonight and give me an excuse that she didn't see my text while she was talking to her family. Not going to micro-analyze that in this thread but overall I'm operating under the assumption that there aren't many clean-cut upper-middle-class professionals on Badoo, so for some women it might skew the odds in my favor, albeit triggering some beta-bux impulses.
The Problem of User Overlap
The problem with the top apps is you wind up seeing the same faces again and again. That's what it began to feel like being on the main ones. Once everyone has all these apps it may as well just be one single app so you're spinning your wheels seeing the same images as you go from app to app. I think with Badoo and CmB there's a lot less overlap so there's reason to give it a shot to cast a wider net.
Trying brand new apps
I briefly tried an app called Jaomo. It's really close to a scam in most respects in how it gives you a taste and then starts locking things down and lots of profiles seem fake. However, I did manage to meet a woman through it. My opinion is that when a dating site is brand new there is a "desert island" effect where there are a sea of fake profiles but if you can prove you're real, you have a temporary advantage. Like the throttling that CmB does, it forces women to pay more attention to you than if they could just scan through pretty much every single guy in a 50 mile radius for the juicy 20%. Of course, the types of women likely to fire up some random oddball app are probably not cream of the crop. In this case she was hot but most likely autistic (an unusual combination to be sure) and that's not a recipe for physicality.
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I'd like to please hear other reports from the field to either confirm or challenge my findings.