In the initial stages of dating, as far as you're concerned, women have to give you 100% cooperation or you have 0% interest.
A lot of times, girls will give you that half-in, half-out kind of vibe, like, "ya, I'd love to go, it sounds fun, but my aunt is here this weekend, and we might have family plans for the night, I want to go, so hopefully we get to have our night, I'll keep you posted".
When the girl is giving you that kind of communication, you have to just scratch the possibility all together.
If you've already indicated that you have a plan with her, then don't respond right away, let it stew for a minute, and then hit her back with something that let's her know the plans are off, and you hope she enjoys the time with her family, and leave it at that.
Don't suggest another date or alternative plan, if she really wants to link up, she'll re-engage you, then you'll know she's really down.
Now you might say, wait you're being unreasonable, what if she really does have family plans?
You can be a little bit more flexible with chicks who you've already established something with, it is unreasonable to expect people to be available at every moment that you want them to be, but that's not the point.
Your time is valuable. It makes no sense to make a concrete plan and get excited about someone who isn't committing 100% to the game plan. That half-in, half-out shit is a telegraph that a flake is coming, which will leave you rather disappointed and reeling on a night you were planning to have a great time. You also have to take these explanations with a grain of salt, a lot of times, girls are just lining up their options, and then ultimately they accept one, and everyone else gets discarded.
This is disrespectful to you as a man.
I recently had a chick give me that half-in, half-out bullshit, and the night we were supposed to go out, I ended up taking another chick out, I showed her a great time, and then afterwards we fucked like animals until the sun came up -- always have back up plans, you should be doing something that you're going to do regardless if the girl accompanies you or not.
That could have been her, but it wasn't; her loss, not mine.
You'll eliminate a lot of frustration in this game, if you play by your rules. Remember when chicks are down, they are down, a chick will blow off damn near anything if she really wants to spend time with a guy, especially someone new, who she's really excited about and wants to make a good impression for, so if they're setting you up with anything less than 100% cooperation, then you're just not interested.
A lot of times, girls will give you that half-in, half-out kind of vibe, like, "ya, I'd love to go, it sounds fun, but my aunt is here this weekend, and we might have family plans for the night, I want to go, so hopefully we get to have our night, I'll keep you posted".
When the girl is giving you that kind of communication, you have to just scratch the possibility all together.
If you've already indicated that you have a plan with her, then don't respond right away, let it stew for a minute, and then hit her back with something that let's her know the plans are off, and you hope she enjoys the time with her family, and leave it at that.
Don't suggest another date or alternative plan, if she really wants to link up, she'll re-engage you, then you'll know she's really down.
Now you might say, wait you're being unreasonable, what if she really does have family plans?
You can be a little bit more flexible with chicks who you've already established something with, it is unreasonable to expect people to be available at every moment that you want them to be, but that's not the point.
Your time is valuable. It makes no sense to make a concrete plan and get excited about someone who isn't committing 100% to the game plan. That half-in, half-out shit is a telegraph that a flake is coming, which will leave you rather disappointed and reeling on a night you were planning to have a great time. You also have to take these explanations with a grain of salt, a lot of times, girls are just lining up their options, and then ultimately they accept one, and everyone else gets discarded.
This is disrespectful to you as a man.
I recently had a chick give me that half-in, half-out bullshit, and the night we were supposed to go out, I ended up taking another chick out, I showed her a great time, and then afterwards we fucked like animals until the sun came up -- always have back up plans, you should be doing something that you're going to do regardless if the girl accompanies you or not.
That could have been her, but it wasn't; her loss, not mine.
You'll eliminate a lot of frustration in this game, if you play by your rules. Remember when chicks are down, they are down, a chick will blow off damn near anything if she really wants to spend time with a guy, especially someone new, who she's really excited about and wants to make a good impression for, so if they're setting you up with anything less than 100% cooperation, then you're just not interested.
