Quote: (10-05-2016 04:52 AM)preppy Wrote:
I've seen women openly post on facebook "need some help with bills this month", within minutes there are men posting telling her to message them privately.
On tinder, it's become normal to see women requesting starbucks/chipotle/help with moving. There's simply such an overabundance of men in the US.
Yeah, it's pretty disgusting, isn't it.
Quote: (10-05-2016 07:09 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
Yes we do, it just comes later and doesn't hit us as hard as it does women. Just because Hugh Hefner made it doesnt mean all of us will. Im 25 and already I can no longer do the things I did at 18.
Gosh, wait until you're pushing 40. Mentally I don't feel particularly old, but paraphrasing some comedian talking about aging "I just feel like a 25 year old who's got something wrong with him."
But I can already feel the "male wall" approaching, even though I'm hoping to stave off the worst of it a little while longer. I know some guys here criticize me for being over-reliant on dating apps for pulling girls, but frankly if I had to rely on cold approaches in the real world to get laid I'm sure I'd have been waiting a very long time to get the couple notches I did over the last year.
If I have the time and energy to make it out of the house even one or two nights a week, I'm having a very good week. Sometimes working 20 minutes a day to check messages and see if anything interesting turned up, or fire off a few openers before I go to the gym for an hour (so I'm not grossly out-of-shape like so many men in my age demographic are, so when a fit 29 year old hits me up for the date on average maybe once a month feel I actually have a shot) is about all the investment in game I can tolerate.
The (theoretically) exclusively-committed LTR certainly has its appeal. I mean I recently found myself considering not breaking it off with a girl I'd been seeing for quite a while, even though I knew she'd rolled out with another dude a couple times while I was seeing her and I didn't at that point have any other girls in the works, simply because a) she would've likely agreed to be non-monogamous and continued to see me whenever I wanted and b) she was smart and good company, didn't drink, cooked well, threw it down in bed and almost never denied me sex, seemed to have a stable family life and a good relationship with her folks, worked very hard to please me in general, etc.
But then I end up going down the same thought process as posters preppy and Mr. Galt are talking about above: at the end of the day, whatever good qualities she had, I know from our conversations she a hoe, she's getting hit up on FB and Tinder, got orbiters and old bangs coming out of the woodwork to hit her up again when they get the impression she still on the market. And why wouldn't they? Lots of guys aren't dumb, and they're picking up on the same attractive qualities I am, beyond just being a perfectly bangable-for-her-age 6.5, who's simply a little too short and "girl next door" librarian-looking for many guys to think of as a stunner.
And unfortunately, at least for me, I get the undeniable nasty feeling that trying to continue on in a non-monogamous quasi-LTR with a girl I know is a hoe where I'm investing anything more than about four hours a week is just handing 'em a license to use me as a cuck.
Even a simply "pretty cute" 30 year old woman, younger-looking than her age but still headed towards the wall, as she was, can get fuckbuddied out by good-looking player as easy as I can grab lunch at Taco Bell and she'll often have no problem signing on for the deal, no matter who else is in her life, if he got game and she feels free to do so. You get the sense that this was the "open hypergamy" plan all along. "Hey champ, I like you, but if you both don't want to wife me up and want an emotional connection in addition, you gotta accept that I have a lot of offers coming in for whatever I want. Plenty of guys just want to bang me and bounce out the door. That's cool, they're cute! I know I can always rely on you for support and good conversation."
Meanwhile at my age even having two plates on rotation concurrently, where I'm investing any more emotion and energy than what feels like just using her as an unpaid hooker, is like a full-time job.