[Comte De St. Germain]

Did you need to start a thread if you were going to do it anyways? If you really felt like experimenting you would have posted a thread after the fact. You're rationalizing your own actions and expecting thumbs ups from all of us.

[Vaun]

(09-16-2016 05:28 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

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I'll be blunt: it's just me experimenting, mostly unconsciously, with girls like this. No different from gaming girls you don't really want to sleep with for practice.

Most girls I don't bother with after break-ups, though, whether of the relationship or FWB sort.

At the end of the day, she's felt the need to ask me how to send back the letters and postcards. I'm clearly on her mind and have been so even with my mostly single sentence messages from time to time.

It's not really most subconsciously if you're writing about it and admitting it.

I can understand the practice part, but now it's clear you keeping an open line has her coming to chase you. The only reason I'd do this is if I wanted to sleep with her again. Outside of that, I'd just tell her to mail my stuff back.

I tried this for a while. Girl was hooked, she kept coming back. I would ghost, bang lots of other girls, and generally be a huge dick to her. This went on for a few years. The pussy was gold, squirter, huge amazing boobs, former model, now executive. Not a dumb girl. A sexual women hooked on me, after I broke off a 10 month LTR.

Every single time I thought we were done, it would start again with "oh I forgot that thing", or "want to just say hi", or some other dumb pointless shit.

Throughout this I thought I was "experimenting." But in reality, how you treat a woman is directly tied to your emotional reaction to them in your life. One girl you treat one way, and another you will treat a completely other way, all based on your subconscious desire to obtain that woman's attention. "Practice" is irrelevant, especially if that one is someone you don't give a shit about. The girl you really want, you will act completely different for. And poor practice on a girl you could care less for, is not going to teach you these illusive alpha skills you are trying to gain.

Keeping that girl in my life prevented me from truly moving on from the LTR. I thought I would marry her at one point, she revealed crazy, I broke it off but kept her in my life. It affected my work, health and focus. It held me back for years.

You know what to do; disconnect completely and disappear from her life. Go full profile block on social media, disappear for good from her. Let her keep that stuff. Go find a new one, or take a short break to clear your head. Get her out of your life for good.

[Tex Cruise]

Could be wrong, but I think I see where OP is coming from just wanting to understand the psychology behind this behaviour.

I found out a while back that a former LTR of mine that I have on/off contact with still has all my cards and letters from 15 years(!) ago. despite numerous moves, and her being a compulsive "spring cleaner" and whatever the opposite of a hoarder is.

I don't have nearly enough tattoos and criminal convictions to meet her standards, and I'm sure she knows she's far too old to meet mine, so it really is just out of interest.

[britabroad]

- she decided you werent father material at that moment
- she misses you and has no other options atm

imo

[FireStarter]

Sounds like an excessive amount of effort and drama for someone you're not interested in.

I understand the need to experiment but wouldn't that time be better spent experimenting on how to get the things you actually want.