Hello,
I would like some advice from you, guys.
First a little bit about myself: I started this stuff 5 years ago (I am now 35) and I have been quite active in this for the past 4 years. I went through all the phases: the Game, Mystery, RSD, Mark Manson, Cory Skyy, etc. I did several programs and read tons of stuff, of course. I did day game in malls, etc.
Now I had a girlfriend for the past 4 years and I was seeing other girls on the side. I had up to 3 girlfriends at the same time, with the type I always wanted. So I got what I was looking for in pick-up in the first place after tons of work.
However, I realized also in the past year that the women I attracted in my life had a positive influence in my life but were also dragging me down and keeping me "captive" in a way.
So I researched and found about this dynamic between emotionnally dependent and narcisstic people. I realized all these women had a strong narcisstic side and I stopped all relationship with them. I worked also on myself to become more emotionnally self-reliant (work in progress).
So now I'm kind of starting all over with this stuff and this time I am starting from my own self and not some inflated persona of me. So it's a humbling experience and it feels like I have never did this stuff. I am now very cautious with narcisstic people in general.
The good thing is that I cleaned a lot of dark stuff inside me and now I have a much more attractive vibe, whatever my mood is. So this is a good thing.
However, I still am quite attached to "getting the flag" and bedding beautiful women, which I think is dragging me down. I still have some limiting beliefs and fears which prevent me from being completely free.
Recovering from the unhealthy patterns I learned while in "the community", I'm now trying to find a new balance. I think that there can be tons of damage from hypergamy/non-monogamy if there is a lack of honesty and integrity behind it.
At the time I did not know I was dishonest, I found reasons to think that what I was doing was ok.
Now I'm single 100% and ready to meet beautiful women from Scandinavia and Eastern Europe.
I still think it's worth it, despite all the time, money and energy that can get invested in this stuff. I still believe it's a path to self-development, if it's not at the expense of other people.
So, I'm a bit dumbfounded now, I feel like a newborn almost. I'm going to travel 7 weeks on my own from Sweden => Denmark => Germany => Poland => Holland. I'm sure I'll learn tons and grow as well. However, I already think this is quite tough to travel to foreign countries for a short amount of time and get laid.
So basically, that's where I'm at right now.
I'm reading now the ebook from this guy and will do the exercises he proposes.
If based on my story, you have any recommendation for me to get better at this stuff, let me know. I plan to date abroad for the next 2-4 years and depending if I meet the right woman for me, I'll stop.
This message is basically a way to recognize all the work I still have to do to reach the level I'd like to.
I think that I went from being brainwashed by society to being brainwashed by the community. So I went back more to society's standards due to the effects this stuff had on my reputation and my life. So now I'm being more discrete and more wise about it. I still think our sexual life is our own, however it can be frowned upon by society and people can be hurt in the process if there is a lack of honesty and compassion for women.
That was a long thread, thanks for reading it.
I would like some advice from you, guys.
First a little bit about myself: I started this stuff 5 years ago (I am now 35) and I have been quite active in this for the past 4 years. I went through all the phases: the Game, Mystery, RSD, Mark Manson, Cory Skyy, etc. I did several programs and read tons of stuff, of course. I did day game in malls, etc.
Now I had a girlfriend for the past 4 years and I was seeing other girls on the side. I had up to 3 girlfriends at the same time, with the type I always wanted. So I got what I was looking for in pick-up in the first place after tons of work.
However, I realized also in the past year that the women I attracted in my life had a positive influence in my life but were also dragging me down and keeping me "captive" in a way.
So I researched and found about this dynamic between emotionnally dependent and narcisstic people. I realized all these women had a strong narcisstic side and I stopped all relationship with them. I worked also on myself to become more emotionnally self-reliant (work in progress).
So now I'm kind of starting all over with this stuff and this time I am starting from my own self and not some inflated persona of me. So it's a humbling experience and it feels like I have never did this stuff. I am now very cautious with narcisstic people in general.
The good thing is that I cleaned a lot of dark stuff inside me and now I have a much more attractive vibe, whatever my mood is. So this is a good thing.
However, I still am quite attached to "getting the flag" and bedding beautiful women, which I think is dragging me down. I still have some limiting beliefs and fears which prevent me from being completely free.
Recovering from the unhealthy patterns I learned while in "the community", I'm now trying to find a new balance. I think that there can be tons of damage from hypergamy/non-monogamy if there is a lack of honesty and integrity behind it.
At the time I did not know I was dishonest, I found reasons to think that what I was doing was ok.
Now I'm single 100% and ready to meet beautiful women from Scandinavia and Eastern Europe.
I still think it's worth it, despite all the time, money and energy that can get invested in this stuff. I still believe it's a path to self-development, if it's not at the expense of other people.
So, I'm a bit dumbfounded now, I feel like a newborn almost. I'm going to travel 7 weeks on my own from Sweden => Denmark => Germany => Poland => Holland. I'm sure I'll learn tons and grow as well. However, I already think this is quite tough to travel to foreign countries for a short amount of time and get laid.
So basically, that's where I'm at right now.
I'm reading now the ebook from this guy and will do the exercises he proposes.
If based on my story, you have any recommendation for me to get better at this stuff, let me know. I plan to date abroad for the next 2-4 years and depending if I meet the right woman for me, I'll stop.
This message is basically a way to recognize all the work I still have to do to reach the level I'd like to.
I think that I went from being brainwashed by society to being brainwashed by the community. So I went back more to society's standards due to the effects this stuff had on my reputation and my life. So now I'm being more discrete and more wise about it. I still think our sexual life is our own, however it can be frowned upon by society and people can be hurt in the process if there is a lack of honesty and compassion for women.
That was a long thread, thanks for reading it.