I have a query that has left me confused over the last couple of months
Now that I have entered my mid 20s I have noticed an increased amount of pressure from girls, pushing me to spend money on them. Take in mind most of these girls are foreign, especially from the FSU or Southern Europe. I am well aware of the custom in which you are expected to pay for meals, drinks etc. Usually I would oblige by doing this, If I enjoyed their company, and most of the time these girls would be very feminine and pleasant to be around.
However recently, these girls are demanding more, recently I was planning a trip with one of them, and agreed to pay for everything, in terms of hotels etc but I wouldn't be able to pay for their flight. This was met with all sorts of anger and accusations of 'breaking her mind'. I had another girl expecting me to pay for all sorts of activities without her even saying thank you.
My relations with these girls are verging on casual short term relationships. Not that it matters but these are girls that do have the money to spend on themselves.
Of course I understand the whole gold digging sentiment but also that girls gravitate towards men with resources. I do have a stable job and lifestyle which makes them think I'm probably making more money than I actually do.
I don't get offended because I understand its the nature of the game, previously I never encountered this issue when I used to be scoring with lots of women throughout my early 20s. But now I feel like these girls are trying their hardest to put me into that beta provider category, even going as far as withdrawing sex.
Usually in the past I would just 'next' girls If I encountered this sort of manipulation or serious level of 'shit testing' but the frequency of it has led me to think whether this could be a sign of things to come as I progress through life.
I was also thinking of putting this into the lifestyle or everything else section. as it has made me question how 21st century nihilistic culture has destroyed relationships by creating a dichotomy and almost bi polar set of expectations on men and women in how they view and enter relationships.
To summarise, has anyone noticed this change in their lives, as well as how to manage with this test of frame. I expect women to conform to traditional gender roles if I was to date them but at the same time, I know that I am expected to conform to my role and be a provider to an extent. However when I am aware of the "beta bucks, Alfa Fucks' tendency that is even prevalent in so called traditional countries, I just recoil at this.
Any ideas or experiences would be appreciated.
Now that I have entered my mid 20s I have noticed an increased amount of pressure from girls, pushing me to spend money on them. Take in mind most of these girls are foreign, especially from the FSU or Southern Europe. I am well aware of the custom in which you are expected to pay for meals, drinks etc. Usually I would oblige by doing this, If I enjoyed their company, and most of the time these girls would be very feminine and pleasant to be around.
However recently, these girls are demanding more, recently I was planning a trip with one of them, and agreed to pay for everything, in terms of hotels etc but I wouldn't be able to pay for their flight. This was met with all sorts of anger and accusations of 'breaking her mind'. I had another girl expecting me to pay for all sorts of activities without her even saying thank you.
My relations with these girls are verging on casual short term relationships. Not that it matters but these are girls that do have the money to spend on themselves.
Of course I understand the whole gold digging sentiment but also that girls gravitate towards men with resources. I do have a stable job and lifestyle which makes them think I'm probably making more money than I actually do.
I don't get offended because I understand its the nature of the game, previously I never encountered this issue when I used to be scoring with lots of women throughout my early 20s. But now I feel like these girls are trying their hardest to put me into that beta provider category, even going as far as withdrawing sex.
Usually in the past I would just 'next' girls If I encountered this sort of manipulation or serious level of 'shit testing' but the frequency of it has led me to think whether this could be a sign of things to come as I progress through life.
I was also thinking of putting this into the lifestyle or everything else section. as it has made me question how 21st century nihilistic culture has destroyed relationships by creating a dichotomy and almost bi polar set of expectations on men and women in how they view and enter relationships.
To summarise, has anyone noticed this change in their lives, as well as how to manage with this test of frame. I expect women to conform to traditional gender roles if I was to date them but at the same time, I know that I am expected to conform to my role and be a provider to an extent. However when I am aware of the "beta bucks, Alfa Fucks' tendency that is even prevalent in so called traditional countries, I just recoil at this.
Any ideas or experiences would be appreciated.