Before game, I never dumped a girl. It was the other way around. As of late, I have started to see success with women for the first time.
And I am noticing myself grow emotionally detached from these women, after fucking. This is not just the post-sex feeling of detachment. It feels a bit more deep. Symptoms:
- If I am immersed in my projects, I will simply forget about my leads, not care to text them
- After getting bored of fucking them, I will just stop texting them completely
- I will not have a craving to see them again, basically treating them like a video game that I've played and won
Before game, I was lost in a woman's affections. I constantly thought about them. Sure it was just one woman and I had zero abundance, but I was capable of feeling like I am in love.
Today, a girl texted me 7 days after we fucked for the first time (neither of us texted during that period -- I was busy with work and in general just wanted to find new leads) asking me "curious.. what is on your mind? how did i appear to your eyes?"
I have never had to answer this kind of question before. This feeling is so foreign; I honestly was a bit disgusted when I first read it. It screams insecurity. But later I thought: I was insecure too, and I still am about some things. She's just human.
My gut instinct still says to be nice to people and reassure women like that, but I also don't want to mislead - I genuinely also feel emotionally indifferent towards her at the same time. Before game, I would've reassured her and made up some bs excuse about not having time, etc... Now, I just want to be direct, but I feel shitty doing so. And, at the risk of sounding even more psychopathic, I am trying to determine whether I can use this text to get her in bed tonight with minimal effort.
Curious - how have you guys dealt with this duality of your nice guy roots of being reassuring and compassionate and erring towards not making people feel bad VS being emotionally indifferent after game. When you do something emotionally indifferent, do you still feeling bad about it? Or has stuff like this become to petty to matter to you?
And I am noticing myself grow emotionally detached from these women, after fucking. This is not just the post-sex feeling of detachment. It feels a bit more deep. Symptoms:
- If I am immersed in my projects, I will simply forget about my leads, not care to text them
- After getting bored of fucking them, I will just stop texting them completely
- I will not have a craving to see them again, basically treating them like a video game that I've played and won
Before game, I was lost in a woman's affections. I constantly thought about them. Sure it was just one woman and I had zero abundance, but I was capable of feeling like I am in love.
Today, a girl texted me 7 days after we fucked for the first time (neither of us texted during that period -- I was busy with work and in general just wanted to find new leads) asking me "curious.. what is on your mind? how did i appear to your eyes?"
I have never had to answer this kind of question before. This feeling is so foreign; I honestly was a bit disgusted when I first read it. It screams insecurity. But later I thought: I was insecure too, and I still am about some things. She's just human.
My gut instinct still says to be nice to people and reassure women like that, but I also don't want to mislead - I genuinely also feel emotionally indifferent towards her at the same time. Before game, I would've reassured her and made up some bs excuse about not having time, etc... Now, I just want to be direct, but I feel shitty doing so. And, at the risk of sounding even more psychopathic, I am trying to determine whether I can use this text to get her in bed tonight with minimal effort.
Curious - how have you guys dealt with this duality of your nice guy roots of being reassuring and compassionate and erring towards not making people feel bad VS being emotionally indifferent after game. When you do something emotionally indifferent, do you still feeling bad about it? Or has stuff like this become to petty to matter to you?