Hey guys,
im trying to improve my game (especially daygame) now since about 1 year and i think at some parts i was successful and in some parts im still lacking hardcore.
In my opinion, or at least, whats important for me is making my own style fitting the best to myself, my image, my character. I was reading rooshv's day bang, articles/books from 20nations, videos from daygame.com, and of course a lot of threads in this forum. As i said, i do not really want to copy things too much, i try to find my own style and maybie you can give me some advices to improve.
Personally, for me, I feel REALLY comfortable approaching when im travelling or im at places i can act like a tourist, or be someone that doesnt know a lot about the place i am. For me, its pretty much the only thing i feel comfortable approaching, beeing a fckin tourist. I just randomly ask where something is, some recommentations, whatever, always works and worked like a charm. But thats my problem, when i cant live this kind of game, i dont feel comfortable, i feel like wasting someones time, having a super akward conversation without a relevance, or even lying to someone, no idea why.
For me it's not really a problem making another person feeling connected to me after some minutes, i would describe myself as attractive, calm and mysterious. I do quite a lot of things in my life girls are normally interested in or adore me for, like travelling, art, music, so whenever i start talking about that stuff its pretty much easy for me getting her full affection.
so, now another problem: i live in a "small" town (~200.000), where especially in the NIGHTlife you meet the same persons over and over again, so im pretty much forced focusing on daygame. (im not really interested in social circles) Now, the city is small, its too small that i could really ask for recommondations or locations, i tried this sometimes and, of course, the girl helped me, but in the same moment she gave me this "holy shit man how cant you know where that is?"-face, and instantly got that feeling that im just talking bullshit to start talking to her. (which is not what i want her to think)
So, basically, when im out of my town, this is what i always do and what really works well for me, unfortunately this is more like the only thing that im really feeling confortable doing is, i didnt really find another way yet. (The last time I approached this way was in colombia around one week ago and i ended up having a wonderful night with 5 chicks in a bar having a threesome afterwards ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
1. go to a girl, ask her where that place is. (after asking her if she has time and can help me out)
2. she can tell me and tells me the way OR she doesnt know where it is.
If yes: i let her tell me the way, usually lets her talking for 30 seconds (meanwhile im doing like im really focusing on what she says and giving deep eye contact)
If no: i ask her if she knows places that can offer me the same like the one im looking for. She mostly talks for the next 3 minutes then and will be feeling helpful and warmed up for a conversation afterwards.
3. After that, i try to hold the conversation a bit longer, let her introduce her, and then lead the conversation in that way i want it to go, i want her to ask me about my job or travelling, because thats where i can impress the most.
4. Rest is either walking around together (maybie to that place she recommended me), exchanging numbers or whatever and seal the deal.
So, basically im looking for another way to approach, that i can do anywhere, anytime, and do not have to adapt too much on the situation. (if i see someone walking on the streets i have to act quick, not thinking about something i could possibly tell her now). I really suck beeing spontaneous, i always need a full plan to act convincingly. What i found out, i do not like to start with compliments, because im always the mysterious guy that doesnt give a sh*t. giving her compliments makes her feel like i care. (roughly said) Another thing with compliments in the public is, that most of the time other people hear it (yes, my city is too quiet) i mean, i dont give a sh*t if other people hear it, but whenever i did it and recognized someone else was hearing it, the girl was feeling uncomforatble instantly. Another problem with compliments are, that they are said, and then, you either have to talk about the compliment you gave her (for example her style) or you randomaly change the topic to something else, what is super wierd for me.
As i said, i was reading the books/articles from 20nation/rooshv, i was reading a lot about openers, but for me, there was nothing in there that i would like to use and feel comfortable doing this. now that you know a bit about my person, maybie you can give me an advice about opening a conversation that fits me more.
Greets, deni
im trying to improve my game (especially daygame) now since about 1 year and i think at some parts i was successful and in some parts im still lacking hardcore.
In my opinion, or at least, whats important for me is making my own style fitting the best to myself, my image, my character. I was reading rooshv's day bang, articles/books from 20nations, videos from daygame.com, and of course a lot of threads in this forum. As i said, i do not really want to copy things too much, i try to find my own style and maybie you can give me some advices to improve.
Personally, for me, I feel REALLY comfortable approaching when im travelling or im at places i can act like a tourist, or be someone that doesnt know a lot about the place i am. For me, its pretty much the only thing i feel comfortable approaching, beeing a fckin tourist. I just randomly ask where something is, some recommentations, whatever, always works and worked like a charm. But thats my problem, when i cant live this kind of game, i dont feel comfortable, i feel like wasting someones time, having a super akward conversation without a relevance, or even lying to someone, no idea why.
For me it's not really a problem making another person feeling connected to me after some minutes, i would describe myself as attractive, calm and mysterious. I do quite a lot of things in my life girls are normally interested in or adore me for, like travelling, art, music, so whenever i start talking about that stuff its pretty much easy for me getting her full affection.
so, now another problem: i live in a "small" town (~200.000), where especially in the NIGHTlife you meet the same persons over and over again, so im pretty much forced focusing on daygame. (im not really interested in social circles) Now, the city is small, its too small that i could really ask for recommondations or locations, i tried this sometimes and, of course, the girl helped me, but in the same moment she gave me this "holy shit man how cant you know where that is?"-face, and instantly got that feeling that im just talking bullshit to start talking to her. (which is not what i want her to think)
So, basically, when im out of my town, this is what i always do and what really works well for me, unfortunately this is more like the only thing that im really feeling confortable doing is, i didnt really find another way yet. (The last time I approached this way was in colombia around one week ago and i ended up having a wonderful night with 5 chicks in a bar having a threesome afterwards ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
1. go to a girl, ask her where that place is. (after asking her if she has time and can help me out)
2. she can tell me and tells me the way OR she doesnt know where it is.
If yes: i let her tell me the way, usually lets her talking for 30 seconds (meanwhile im doing like im really focusing on what she says and giving deep eye contact)
If no: i ask her if she knows places that can offer me the same like the one im looking for. She mostly talks for the next 3 minutes then and will be feeling helpful and warmed up for a conversation afterwards.
3. After that, i try to hold the conversation a bit longer, let her introduce her, and then lead the conversation in that way i want it to go, i want her to ask me about my job or travelling, because thats where i can impress the most.
4. Rest is either walking around together (maybie to that place she recommended me), exchanging numbers or whatever and seal the deal.
So, basically im looking for another way to approach, that i can do anywhere, anytime, and do not have to adapt too much on the situation. (if i see someone walking on the streets i have to act quick, not thinking about something i could possibly tell her now). I really suck beeing spontaneous, i always need a full plan to act convincingly. What i found out, i do not like to start with compliments, because im always the mysterious guy that doesnt give a sh*t. giving her compliments makes her feel like i care. (roughly said) Another thing with compliments in the public is, that most of the time other people hear it (yes, my city is too quiet) i mean, i dont give a sh*t if other people hear it, but whenever i did it and recognized someone else was hearing it, the girl was feeling uncomforatble instantly. Another problem with compliments are, that they are said, and then, you either have to talk about the compliment you gave her (for example her style) or you randomaly change the topic to something else, what is super wierd for me.
As i said, i was reading the books/articles from 20nation/rooshv, i was reading a lot about openers, but for me, there was nothing in there that i would like to use and feel comfortable doing this. now that you know a bit about my person, maybie you can give me an advice about opening a conversation that fits me more.
Greets, deni
