Not the first time it happened to me but it's annoying nevertheless . It really get's to me and I almost feel like going to ask for the money back .
I am not a stingy person far from it . But maybe the rejection + lighter bank account thingy + time wasted really gets to me . Off the top of my head 3 times it has happened in the recent past .. the most recent being Saturday night ! The girl was a Belgian medical researcher and I saw her liking some borderline feminist articles on Facebook . We spent over 6 hours on the date .. talked sexual from the first hour .. about our fantasies , threesomes etc . I thought it was a sure lay .. We met around 17h and at 21:30h when I really made my approach aggresive looking to close she tells me physcially I am not her type at all and she will have to force herself to have sex with me . So I asked her why did you waste the whole evening with me ? She said because I am interesting . Of course !
I don't mind buying the drinks if the vibe is right which was in this case . I bought the first 3 rounds ..then made a passive aggresive move of telling her I am going to the toilet please get the drinks . She did that one round . Then I again bought the next three . After she told me she wasn't interested in me sexually I called it quits and for that last round she asked that we split the money !! I agreed but that's really taking the piss ! I paid for drinks all night and when it came down to it she asks to split bills like she gets to keep her face !
Anyways in hindsight I felt a bit agigated and thought I should have got the cue when she was being so reluctant to buy drinks . But it's really hard to tell .. Sometimes girls pay for their own drinks because they have self respect and they know they won't fuck you so they feel guilty in wasting your money . So I take it as a good sign if the girl is comfortable letting me buy the drinks. Also sometimes they pay for the drinks because they really like you and they are having a good time so they don't mind spending the money .
How do you know which is which ?
Am I wrong for feeling this way ? I know I am not tight or stingy but maybe rejection on my subconscious is the major reason for me being upset . Also it makes me angry that the cunts can get away with it !
Anyways I am off to Valencia for the summer starting tomorrow . Hope to have a good time and look forward to dropping data soon / cheers
I am not a stingy person far from it . But maybe the rejection + lighter bank account thingy + time wasted really gets to me . Off the top of my head 3 times it has happened in the recent past .. the most recent being Saturday night ! The girl was a Belgian medical researcher and I saw her liking some borderline feminist articles on Facebook . We spent over 6 hours on the date .. talked sexual from the first hour .. about our fantasies , threesomes etc . I thought it was a sure lay .. We met around 17h and at 21:30h when I really made my approach aggresive looking to close she tells me physcially I am not her type at all and she will have to force herself to have sex with me . So I asked her why did you waste the whole evening with me ? She said because I am interesting . Of course !
I don't mind buying the drinks if the vibe is right which was in this case . I bought the first 3 rounds ..then made a passive aggresive move of telling her I am going to the toilet please get the drinks . She did that one round . Then I again bought the next three . After she told me she wasn't interested in me sexually I called it quits and for that last round she asked that we split the money !! I agreed but that's really taking the piss ! I paid for drinks all night and when it came down to it she asks to split bills like she gets to keep her face !
Anyways in hindsight I felt a bit agigated and thought I should have got the cue when she was being so reluctant to buy drinks . But it's really hard to tell .. Sometimes girls pay for their own drinks because they have self respect and they know they won't fuck you so they feel guilty in wasting your money . So I take it as a good sign if the girl is comfortable letting me buy the drinks. Also sometimes they pay for the drinks because they really like you and they are having a good time so they don't mind spending the money .
How do you know which is which ?
Am I wrong for feeling this way ? I know I am not tight or stingy but maybe rejection on my subconscious is the major reason for me being upset . Also it makes me angry that the cunts can get away with it !
Anyways I am off to Valencia for the summer starting tomorrow . Hope to have a good time and look forward to dropping data soon / cheers