Official introduction thread
03-06-2013, 02:01 PM
Age: 57
Location: Los Angeles
Stats: White/5'10"/165/fit
Marital Status: Twice divorced, first was a "bad decision" back in the mid-80's, the other lasted 16 years and ended July 2012 - the divorce was finalized on 2/7
Profession: Finance/accounting since 1979, have held the same job as a controller for 20 years - have enough bank to retire in style today, but will continue to work probably another 2-3 years. Once I'm done, I plan to focus on my creative pursuits - composing music and landscape/concert photography.
Stuff I Dig: surfing, snowboarding, playing music (multi-instrumentalist), producing music, travel, foreign language, the arts, reading, film, billiards, women.
Game Level: Having come of age in the late '60s/early '70s, when getting laid was as easy as saying "free love, Baby!", my game skills were never properly developed as a result...I took what was handed to me - and was eventually taken in by the late 70's myth that women dug betas like actor Alan Alda ("M.A.S.H."), and that women wanted you to love 'em before they were going to spread their legs. Dumb, dumb, dumb...First exposure to the PUA concept was VH-1's "The Pickup Artist". I consider myself, at 57, to be a beginner - as I am working to try to break a LIFETIME of erroneous technique in my interaction with women. At the tail-end of my marriage, I fell into the "pay for play" arena - which was a mixed blessing - lots of beautiful women who honestly "got" me, increasing my self-confidence, but it was largely an illusion and a drain on the bank account. As a newly-minted single guy, I've sworn that off...if I can't get laid on my own, why fuckin' bother!
Game: I've been relying largely on online game. Since September 2012, I've gotten six bangs and three flags - all via match.com and pof.com. I've certainly made more than one error in judgment in the process, but I'm annotating as I go, reading (have bought/read all of Roosh's books, Neil's book, and the other "bibles" of the phenomena) and hanging on RFV - which has been a tremendous source of great information - thanks! My strengths are 1) my creativity - chicks love musicians, and my landscape photos have dampened more then one pair of panties, 2) my demeanor - laid-back but confident and 3) I'm fairly good-looking and look like I'm in my late 40's. My weaknesses are 1) I tend to reveal too much - need to keep my cards close to my vest and leave the baggage in the fuckin' closet, 2) I need to improve my open/conversational technique in day/night game situations and 3) do more approaches overall IRL and not depend upon the pre-qualification aspect of online game. My DHV needs work as well - I've accomplished a lot in my lifetime and have a lot going for me, but I'm having trouble converting it into routines without seeming overly boastful or blow-hardy. My biggest mental block is in day-game approaches - I know by the level of women that are giving me IOIs online that I can pull quality (I'm really only aiming at 40+ women), but I'm rusty at this and my subconscious mind is still putting too much focus on possible rejection...so I puss out and don't approach. Night game is better - I've relocated to a bedroom community close to work (wife kept the house in the Hollywood Hills) and there are SOME venues within walking distance, and I've been going out regularly - but I know there are far better venues for an older guy in LA. Problem is, as thegmanifesto has pointed out, night-gaming in this vast wasteland known as LA dictates and you either a) nurse your three drinks over the entire evening or b) risk getting popped for DUI. So I'm going to continue to work the "within walking distance" venues for the time being - the upside of which is it's close to my crib, which is very upscale and tastefully decorated.
Travel Game: Having not done a lot of travel in my younger days, I'm now making up for it in spades...gonna' travel to all those exotic places I've always wanted to visit, hopefully armed with some decent game so that I can capture some mo' flags! In April I'm hitting Cancun - staying at an all-inclusive adult's only resort know for its wildness, then in September I'm going to Barcelona and Catalonia for two weeks, primarily to photograph, but also to game. I know Spain/Barcelona is a difficult location - hoping that since I'm gaming older gals, my results will land me at least a Spanish flag! Studying both Spanish and Catalon, Spanish history, etc. ~ and doing a bit of pipelining as well!