Last Minute Resistance. That frustrating experience when you've managed to isolate a girl who seems attracted to you, and yet once you get her alone she resolutely refuses sexual contact beyond kissing and groping. Every player experiences this on occasion, but this post is addressed to guys who are having this occur with regularity. By LMR, I am not referring to "token resistance" which is common and expected, such as the classic "We're not having sex tonight" or the girl trying to slow down the pace of the escalation a bit; these are a part of the mating ritual which girls often feel compelled to exhibit in order to preserve a bit of their "honor" and shift the responsibility for sex onto the male.
Real LMR is a serious reluctance by a woman to have sex; it can be overcome sometimes but in my view it's better to avoid it arising in the first place. At my age and notch count, I just "can't be arsed" as the British would say to deal with it as I once did, plus we live in the age of the false rape allegation which requires caution. So I've figured out the roots of LMR and that has cut the incidence of it down drastically for me.
Often on the forum I've seen players detailing LMR that occurred and asking for some technique to overcome it, when the truth is that the LMR is the result of mistakes or deficiencies from hours, days, or months before, and there is no "one weird trick" that is going to help them at that point. So, if you're a beginner or intermediate player who is getting real LMR more than about 15% of the time correcting these problems will help you.
Poor Screening
If you want quick sex from girls, it's common sense to avoid going after girls who are sexually inexperienced or conservative, yet it seems that a lot of guys want girls with the fabled 'low notch count" but expect to be able to bang them the first or second time they are together. Stop working at cross purposes with yourself. If you want a sweet, relatively unsoiled girl that's fine, but be willing to invest more time and effort into her and ramp up the sexual interaction over a period of weeks.
But if you want to bang a new girl tonight,you need to be looking for a slut. By definition, sluts and love to fuck are open to banging a new guy without a lot of preliminaries. So learn how to recognize sluts and actively screen girls for sluthood. We have a couple of excellent threads here on the subject that are essential reading:thread-12219...light=slut and thread-27720...light=slut. Knowing the slut signs from memory are part of the players basic toolbox. Learning how to recognize sexually enthusiastic girls both visually and from interacting with them will greatly decrease your incidence of LMR.
The Dr Jekyll/Mr Hyde Syndrome
This is a problem I've heard about from many women, but it doesn't get self reported by guys because I don't think they even know they are doing it. What I'm referring to is presenting one personality to the girl in public, and a different one in private. In public, the player, probably more than he realizes, come across as Mr Nice Guy, or The Beta Provider or Entertainment Monkey, and the girl enjoys his company and is somewhat attracted to him, enough to go hang out in a private place with him, but she is not viscerally aroused and craving sex with him. Maybe she is willing to make out with him but nothing further at this point. When in private, though, he gets more aggressive than she had anticipated given the way he previously presented himself, and goes outside the bounds of her expectations. Thus, resistance to sex.
You need to be congruent. Your body language, dress , speech and the whole manner in which you interact with girls should give off a player vibe.You should come across as a man who expects, goes for, and receives sex quickly and frequently. Understand that girls put men into three categories: Unbangable, Possible Boyfriend Material, and Player. You want to be in the Player box from the first impression, so that the girl will understand that if she isolates herself with you, that you will try to have sex with her with speed and authority. That way, she is fully informed of the situation and can choose to take the dick you are offering or decline and bail out from the interaction while still in public.
Your Sexual Market Value isn't high enough
Girls have sex quickly with those males that activate their instincts to mate with a high status male in order to receive his genes and protection. If she likes you, but you don't fire up the primal part of her brain that is directly connected to her vagina, she will go into "sex for resources" mode. Even the biggest sluts are selective about who they bang-mostly high status males. When a girl goes out and is open to a SNL, she isn't looking for the average schlub, she wants a man who is above her in status. If she's going to mate with a male without expecting resources in return, she at least wants one with the appearance of having good genes.
You will greatly reduce LMR if you make yourself into a more desirable man. Build muscle and lose fat. Dress better and sexier. Improve your social skills and develop charisma. Demonstrate preselection and social status. Strengthen your Inner Game so that you are more confident and bolder. The more your impress a girl as being high value, the more her instincts drive her to mate with you before another female steals you away.
Personally, I don' t put up with any LMR anymore, with the rare exception of a girl I think is high quality and would like to consider as an LTR candidate. In that case, she wouldn't be in the slut category anyway and I would like her to consider me boyfriend material, so taking it slow is acceptable. Generally though, if a girl isn't enthusiastic and making it easy on me, I will end the interaction right there. The last time I engaged in one of those hours-long efforts to get a girls clothes off was years ago and I never will again. Fortunately, by following the principles above, I've managed to get my incidence of serious LMR to below 10%, and more often than not get no resistance, so I know my techniques are effective.
Real LMR is a serious reluctance by a woman to have sex; it can be overcome sometimes but in my view it's better to avoid it arising in the first place. At my age and notch count, I just "can't be arsed" as the British would say to deal with it as I once did, plus we live in the age of the false rape allegation which requires caution. So I've figured out the roots of LMR and that has cut the incidence of it down drastically for me.
Often on the forum I've seen players detailing LMR that occurred and asking for some technique to overcome it, when the truth is that the LMR is the result of mistakes or deficiencies from hours, days, or months before, and there is no "one weird trick" that is going to help them at that point. So, if you're a beginner or intermediate player who is getting real LMR more than about 15% of the time correcting these problems will help you.
Poor Screening
If you want quick sex from girls, it's common sense to avoid going after girls who are sexually inexperienced or conservative, yet it seems that a lot of guys want girls with the fabled 'low notch count" but expect to be able to bang them the first or second time they are together. Stop working at cross purposes with yourself. If you want a sweet, relatively unsoiled girl that's fine, but be willing to invest more time and effort into her and ramp up the sexual interaction over a period of weeks.
But if you want to bang a new girl tonight,you need to be looking for a slut. By definition, sluts and love to fuck are open to banging a new guy without a lot of preliminaries. So learn how to recognize sluts and actively screen girls for sluthood. We have a couple of excellent threads here on the subject that are essential reading:thread-12219...light=slut and thread-27720...light=slut. Knowing the slut signs from memory are part of the players basic toolbox. Learning how to recognize sexually enthusiastic girls both visually and from interacting with them will greatly decrease your incidence of LMR.
The Dr Jekyll/Mr Hyde Syndrome
This is a problem I've heard about from many women, but it doesn't get self reported by guys because I don't think they even know they are doing it. What I'm referring to is presenting one personality to the girl in public, and a different one in private. In public, the player, probably more than he realizes, come across as Mr Nice Guy, or The Beta Provider or Entertainment Monkey, and the girl enjoys his company and is somewhat attracted to him, enough to go hang out in a private place with him, but she is not viscerally aroused and craving sex with him. Maybe she is willing to make out with him but nothing further at this point. When in private, though, he gets more aggressive than she had anticipated given the way he previously presented himself, and goes outside the bounds of her expectations. Thus, resistance to sex.
You need to be congruent. Your body language, dress , speech and the whole manner in which you interact with girls should give off a player vibe.You should come across as a man who expects, goes for, and receives sex quickly and frequently. Understand that girls put men into three categories: Unbangable, Possible Boyfriend Material, and Player. You want to be in the Player box from the first impression, so that the girl will understand that if she isolates herself with you, that you will try to have sex with her with speed and authority. That way, she is fully informed of the situation and can choose to take the dick you are offering or decline and bail out from the interaction while still in public.
Your Sexual Market Value isn't high enough
Girls have sex quickly with those males that activate their instincts to mate with a high status male in order to receive his genes and protection. If she likes you, but you don't fire up the primal part of her brain that is directly connected to her vagina, she will go into "sex for resources" mode. Even the biggest sluts are selective about who they bang-mostly high status males. When a girl goes out and is open to a SNL, she isn't looking for the average schlub, she wants a man who is above her in status. If she's going to mate with a male without expecting resources in return, she at least wants one with the appearance of having good genes.
You will greatly reduce LMR if you make yourself into a more desirable man. Build muscle and lose fat. Dress better and sexier. Improve your social skills and develop charisma. Demonstrate preselection and social status. Strengthen your Inner Game so that you are more confident and bolder. The more your impress a girl as being high value, the more her instincts drive her to mate with you before another female steals you away.
Personally, I don' t put up with any LMR anymore, with the rare exception of a girl I think is high quality and would like to consider as an LTR candidate. In that case, she wouldn't be in the slut category anyway and I would like her to consider me boyfriend material, so taking it slow is acceptable. Generally though, if a girl isn't enthusiastic and making it easy on me, I will end the interaction right there. The last time I engaged in one of those hours-long efforts to get a girls clothes off was years ago and I never will again. Fortunately, by following the principles above, I've managed to get my incidence of serious LMR to below 10%, and more often than not get no resistance, so I know my techniques are effective.
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