Quote: (05-31-2011 08:02 AM)deebow Wrote:
Quote: (05-31-2011 07:12 AM)Gmac Wrote:
I agree 100%. I've pulled girls much higher quality than I normally would have with great dance moves. Mine is more of a self-taught style that mixes salsa and michael jackson-esque dancing. It's not professional or anything but I've definitely had girls thinking I was a professional dancer before.
I'm totally with you on that GMAC. I've kind of created my own style of salsa. I felt that I blew the door off the hinges in Sydney just by dancing alone. I had so many women ask me to dance (it felt pretty good).
If you can create your own style all the better imo. Also I think that this ballroom style that most most people here tend to have is kind of lame. Go on youtube and see how they do it in central america or south america. It's more of a natural street style and less elegant and less formal. Knowing how to dance well (salsa, bachata, hip hop, whatever) is always valuable. Making it look effortless yet still very good, will put you on another level.
I cannot resist but to either revive this old thread or at least comment on some dance misconceptions that seem threaded, from my point of view.
In the above quoted post, DeeBow made some comments of comparison for a non-ballroom style of salsa dance (more of a real latin style), and on several previous occasions, I have heard these kinds of comments from people in order to suggest that one kind of style and/or dance is better than another and from my perspective sometimes that kind of comment means.. "I cannot dance ballroom style.. so therefore, ballroom style is lame or it is not as good as the style that i dance." This is a form of dance elitism that really should not be important - unless a person is trying to impress a certain person or group about being part of a certain style.
I have been dancing a form of "ballroom style" salsa, cha cha cha, merengue and bachata for almost 11 years, and over the years an experienced dancer develops techniques and styles that he is good at and maybe other dancers may not have some of those moves in their repertoire. As we become experienced dancers, we make our dance style our own, no matter where we may have learned some of the components. Though certainly, several of my moves and/or techniques, I attribute to different instructors, even though now, those moves are my own and I may even execute them in a way that is a little bit different from how i learned them.
In this regard, I do what i can regarding dance moves, and I have certain weaker areas (actually a year after starting one of my weaknesses was turns, but currently, turns is one of my strengths), and I do what I am able to do. I do not denigrate other styles of dance b/c to each his own. Certainly, I agree that the more a guy is able to mix up various dance styles, techniques and/or moves, then knowing a variety is going to work better for the guy in terms of being able to game a larger variety of women. Sometimes, I dance with women who are all googly and goggley about me and the way that i lead them, and other times, with supposed experienced dancers, we do not hit it off and we do not have a connection.
I definitely do not believe that dance game is the be all and end all b/c sometimes, a guy with better regular game or better looks will be taking the girls home with whom i was dancing. Additionally, it may or may not be worth a guy's time to spend 500 hours learning certain dance game and/or techniques, when there may be better ROI with the learning of other skills and/or spending time in other ways (besides learning dance moves). There are only so many hours in the day.
I personally would like to add to my kinds of dance moves and to incorporate more stylistic forms of grinding approaches or even isolating various body moves in a way that is provocative and/or fun; however, some dance moves are easier to learn for some people than others, and in that regard, to each his own about whether and how to invest time into learning such moves.. whether he learns the style/moves from an instructor, from a video, from watching others on the dance floor or from meditating. In the end, having a variety of dance moves can improve overall game, yet one will need to consider whether it is worth the considerable investment of time. Ballroom style may work well with some girls and some geographical locations and a more fluid and/or less formal style of dance may work better with some other girls and locations.
Sometimes, as some posters of this thread have already mentioned, it may not matter so much the style of dance that one employs but the confidence in which he carries out that style and the other vibes that he transmits to the target woman (women) (or even if he wants to impress the guys into referring women to him, which does happen from time to time).
In sum, I disagree with any concept of dance elitism, yet i believe we each need to decide how much we would like to invest into our dance skills, techniques and/or game, how to invest and we take a chance about whether we are going to get an ROI concerning our dance training (for personal reasons and/or for gaming reasons).